Love help: I have questions about things in my life, but the only people that can answer them are no where to be found. - Help.com

You haven’t said what the things are in your head. No one can help, if they dont know what you need help with.

It’s mostly about a past love.

I once liked this person. They knew how I felt and went out of their way to spend time with me and do things with me and whatever else, but never “made a move”. That’s the very very very abridged version of the story. I have so many questions about it, but I just want to forget. I can’t. I need help forgetting.

I am not the best person here to be able to deal with this. I have been in and out of love lots of times. Sometimes they gave up on me, others the other way around.
It hurts and doesn’t go away quickly, sometimes not at all.
It is a form of grief you are suffering from, the bit about people saying that only time helps us to accept our grief but not lets us forget it completely, are probably telling it how it realy is.

It’s been 10 frikkin years. Time heals is bull poop.

are u in a relationship now or have u been in one since then? 10 years is a long time. why didnt u make a move? just askeing these things because im trying to understand more of the picture…and give some advise hopefully…

No, I’m not currently with anyone. I have been, on and off, it’s not like I’ve been alone and pining or anything.

I waited for them to make a move, cause I put myself out there so many times right down to flat out saying “I want you” and other such things. We talked about it a lot but only how *I* felt it seemed. i figured I did everything else, if they wanted me, it wasn’t my turn anymore, you know?

But if they didn’t, why the clothes borrowing, why the over the top niceness, why the caring and the listening and everything else. It was like a relationship, but with no touching.

hmmm that is strange, maybe they just wanted to be really good friends? i mean if u told them, u wanted them and they still didnt do anything….id take it as they dont want me….but saying that guys are very thick sometimes, trust me im one! do u still have contact with this person…? are u saying u have to be with this person or something? time does heal by the way, it makes the pain go away but not the problem…that always stays.