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i have been broken up with this girl for some time

now and it seems that she has moved on but i havent, i think she still has some feelings for me but none like i do twords her. do i try not to think about dating and just be friends or do i go for her agean

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 5 days ago (7 minutes after post)

Every loss needs to be grieved. There are five stages in grief: denial, anger, regrets, depression, and acceptance.

Right now you are in denial. Until you accept it is FINALLY OVER then you can’t move on to anything else. The best way to accept it is over is to sit down and list all the things you were incompatible over, all the problems, all the issues, all the ways she didn’t accept you for who you are. Now you have your list of what you need in the next relationship.

Next step is join lots of social groups (see meetup.com) and socialize with everyone you can. Focus on being upbeat, confident, sense of humour. Go out and do exciting stuff so you can talk about it. Start a new phase in your life and leave this old one behind.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 5 days ago (33 minutes after post)

If she’s moved on, why would you risk being turned down by her?

You should move on too.

Is she the only girl where you live?

Are the pickings that slim where you live that you have to go back to her?

Move on!

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thrace33 offline Verified User (3 weeks, 4 days) Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (4 hours, 26 minutes after post)

an unbalanced relationship never ends well. From being in the same situation i can tell you that if you get back together with her you will keep giving and sacrificing until you can’t anymore. You’ll know that you love her more, but you will keep trying because you love her so much. Don’t do that to yourself. She may be an amazing person, but i can almost promise you that you will find someone just as amazing as she is later in your life.

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