relationship help: this is the woman I love, and she thinks she’d hideously ugly. - Help.com

Looks quite pretty.

What are you talking about?? SHES HIDEOUS…
nah i’m just joking, she’s really pretty :)
tell her that she is so she doesn’t feel so bad about herself.
honestly she’s pretty.
tell her you love her also and say that you mean it

~CharloTTe
good luck!

nice eyes

If she was any more good looking, she could be a model!

A girl who constantly whines about her looks has a major problem with insecurity. This is a danger signal because you could end up spending all your life reassuring her and calming her insecurity.

It’s better to date a girl who doesn’t fish for compliments/reassurance all the time.

Holy crap she’s beautiful.

You should consider yourself a lucky man :)

There is nothing wrong with her but maybe she’d feel more attractive if she made more of an effort. I feel naked if I go out without having at least put some mascara on, because at the end of the day, if you think you look good, you feel good.

jamine wrote:
she doesnt constantly whine about her looks linuxya, she’s quiet about it; she cant look in mirrors and she flinches when she sees her reflection. she cuts herself also, because she thinks she’s unbearably unattractive. the other day she tried to burn her own face off just to punish herself and make herself more unattractive.. scary right

Oh…that sounds a little more serious than just ‘not thinking you’re attractive’. She may have some kind of underlying issues or something, I’m not sure. What feature does she specifically not like about the way she looks?

To have natural make up you have to wear make up in the first place lol. I didn’t say excessive make up either, I just said made more of an effort. That could be anything from make up, to doing her hair nicely, to wearing something that makes her feel good, to painting her nails every now and again.

thesoftattac wrote:

jamine wrote:
she doesnt constantly whine about her looks linuxya, she’s quiet about it; she cant look in mirrors and she flinches when she sees her reflection. she cuts herself also, because she thinks she’s unbearably unattractive. the other day she tried to burn her own face off just to punish herself and make herself more unattractive.. scary right

Oh…that sounds a little more serious than just ‘not thinking you’re attractive’. She may have some kind of underlying issues or something, I’m not sure. What feature does she specifically not like about the way she looks?

Sounds like Body Dysmorphic Disorder

jamine wrote:
she doesnt constantly whine about her looks linuxya, she’s quiet about it; she cant look in mirrors and she flinches when she sees her reflection. she cuts herself also, because she thinks she’s unbearably unattractive. the other day she tried to burn her own face off just to punish herself and make herself more unattractive.. scary right

This is a lot worse than whining. She has serious anxiety and very poor coping skills.

Honestly, do not pursue this woman romantically. She is too damaged for that right now. If you want to try to rescue her and make her feel better… that is a horrible reason to start a romantic relationship. If you want to be supportive… do NOT use that as a way of getting to her romantically. That will only be taking advantage of a serious vulnerability and low self esteem.

Romantic relationships are best when both parties are relatively stable equals. There’s no point in entering a relationship where you will be drained by the other person. Relationships are about two people being more together than they are separately, about energizing each other.

She has to learn that beauty isn’t everything in life and to not let her insecurities about herself take control of who she is. She has to find the beauty within herself and then she will find the beauty outside. Although I do believe her knowing that someone likes who she is might help her with this.