Relationships help: Confidence or look? - Help.com

i’m not a man… but i would say confidence.

Depends on the man. I first look for body language indicators (I prefer confidence, some more dominant personality types prefer meek and attractive), Then physical beauty, and finally intelligence (last but most important.

nooneknow wrote:
Depends on the man. I first look for body language indicators (I prefer confidence, some more dominant personality types prefer meek and attractive), Then physical beauty, and finally intelligence (last but most important.

In terms of looks, are men as obsessively concerned about the height as women could be? Meaning, as a guy, do you find shorter women (5 feet range) as sexy as taller women (5′6″ and up)? Have you had any “guy conversation” where some guy said “well, she’s kinda short…?”

Personally I have always liked women regardless of height. I know some men like women who are tall or short but there really is no general assumption.

Sometimes bing “hot” is just a state of mind.

nooneknow wrote:
Personally I have always liked women regardless of height. I know some men like women who are tall or short but there really is no general assumption.

Thanks! Cuz I know a lot of women who look for tall men (or taller than them, in some cases) before looking at anything else. But I guess that’s women’s thing. Good to know that men look at shorter women too :-)

Self assurance & sense of humour get more women dating than looks. Gorgeous women are often ignored because they are assumed to be high maintenance.

linuxya wrote:
Self assurance & sense of humour get more women dating than looks. Gorgeous women are often ignored because they are assumed to be high maintenance.

For once linuxya is right. Most guys I know are either afraid to ask out beautiful women because they assume they will get rejected or they believe they are going to be too much work.

I actually don’t think confidence would be a big factor for me in who I’d want to date; since I am not too confident myself I feel as if I could relate better to someone who is not as confident. To me, the most important things are other factors of a girl’s personality, like their intelligence or how nice they are.

nooneknow wrote:

linuxya wrote:
Self assurance & sense of humour get more women dating than looks. Gorgeous women are often ignored because they are assumed to be high maintenance.

For once linuxya is right. Most guys I know are either afraid to ask out beautiful women because they assume they will get rejected or they believe they are going to be too much work.

A little more respect. linuxya happens to be a lawyer! What do you do for a living?

littlenick wrote:

nooneknow wrote:

linuxya wrote:
Self assurance & sense of humour get more women dating than looks. Gorgeous women are often ignored because they are assumed to be high maintenance.

For once linuxya is right. Most guys I know are either afraid to ask out beautiful women because they assume they will get rejected or they believe they are going to be too much work.

A little more respect. linuxya happens to be a lawyer! What do you do for a living?

LOL…Nooneknow is a genius…for a living :s

Although I do respect Linuxya’s replies quite a bit too;)

Oh, and yours, Littlenick :)

Pepper Jelly wrote:
Oh, and yours, Littlenick :)

:)

littlenick wrote:

nooneknow wrote:

linuxya wrote:
Self assurance & sense of humour get more women dating than looks. Gorgeous women are often ignored because they are assumed to be high maintenance.

For once linuxya is right. Most guys I know are either afraid to ask out beautiful women because they assume they will get rejected or they believe they are going to be too much work.

A little more respect. linuxya happens to be a lawyer! What do you do for a living?

I’m a professor thank you very much

I believe its best to just be who you are. Not try to mold yourself into something or someone you arn’t because then you are lying to yourself. I guess I feel being me and being confident with who I am is more important than getting a guys attention.

I believe that it really depends on the guy some may like the confident type others may like the shy type.

When I look at a woman I see her, as a matter fact for me it’s the physical because that is what I see and analyze first. From there it’s a matter of occurrence whether I probe deep enough to become acquainted with her. Confidence will win out any day of the week and twice on Sunday because it is sexy in and of itself. But, confidence and a pretty face, well that is just twice a sexy, x times x is x squared.

Belief wrote:
When I look at a woman I see her, as a matter fact for me it’s the physical because that is what I see and analyze first. From there it’s a matter of occurrence whether I probe deep enough to become acquainted with her. Confidence will win out any day of the week and twice on Sunday because it is sexy in and of itself. But, confidence and a pretty face, well that is just twice a sexy, x times x is x squared.

Honest answer, I like it. I liked all other responses, too! Thanks guys so much!