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Unfortunately, sometimes there just isn’t chemistry between two people :(

You could try to remain friends with her, but it might be difficult to hear her talk about dating or relationships with other guys.

If you can, try to find a hobby or activity to keep you busy. Hopefully it’s one where you can meet people (maybe even a girl you find interesting :) This will help to get your mind off her, but it will still be difficult.

Sorry to hear about your story, it sounds sad. It’s okay though, you will meet someone else, so just try and hang in there.

leave it alone friend. You can’t force love upon someone, no matter how hard you try. Mattieu Ricard said that true love is the desire to see someone happy, no matter what the cost. If you love yourself, and if you love her you i would suggest that you give her space, give yourself space from her. No one can predict the future, but if you are supposed to be with her then you will be one day.

move on. it’s over!

Ouch, some of these replies are a bit harsh. No offense to any of the posters, but I guess try to remember how deeply and easily you can be hurt when it comes to love.

I believe if the boy really cares for the girl he will not push her into something she is not ready to face or deal with. Also if he really enjoys the girls company wouldn’t he atleast try to still be friends. I guess I don’t see the point in saying you care for someone then running off just because they don’t do what you want them to. I believe the girl did the right thing and is very strong in knowing what she wants and when she’s ready for it. To me the boy is being a little selfish and I think he should really consider friendship and take a good look at what he’s doing. Although in the end its all up to what the people decide to go with.

Sorry, I wasn’t trying to be harsh. Love can be the wonderful and terrifying at the same time. However, I do really think you should give yourself space from her, because even though right now it feels like your love for her won’t pass, it will.

thanks for all the comments, all noted..good points are made by everyone..
i made many mistakes in the time with her, for instance telling her i love her when we were trying to keep things simple and uninvolved(shes immigrating next year and also came out of some bad relationships)

its scary to think if there really was no chemistry between us, if i was just caught up in the moment with her and i never noticed and very difficult to be friends with her if she is seeing other guys, having to listen to her conversations with her guy friends about what it would be like if they had kids in 20 years

i don’t want to force anything on her, i just feel very strongly for her and yes, i do want to see her happy no matter the cost

its been three days since we decided to end contact(or not be friends), its hard to not phone her or text her just to say hi..i know that if i did try call her now, we would talk but nothing would have changed; or things could be worse than before and even more concrete

thrace33, it really does feel like i will love this girl forever regardless of what happens.. i do want to be friends with her, but i don’t think she believes that i can be just friends without wanting more of a relationship out of it as before

I’m thinking she slept with you as a favor it’s over thank her for the memory and continue to be friends and wait for her to get drunk…