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You feel like killing yourself because you are drowning in anxiety– you don’t know how to make that feeling stop except to kill yourself.

The good news is that anxiety is something we all deal with and there are good coping strategies you can try.

Anxiety overwhelms you –> you stop doing things and making plans and making commitment –> you become passive –> you feel like a victim because you don’t do things, instead things happen to you –> you get depressed and want to die

The foundation of your problem is the anxiety. When you focus on setting tiny goals just for yourself, committing to them, and achieving them then you suddenly become an active person chasing your own life. You suddenly make your OWN FUTURE and you are no longer the victim of other people.

As long as you feel crappy, you only remember that crap in your life. When you focus on achieving some tiny goal and commit to it, then your brain works at breaking down all the barriers to get it instead of making excuses and trying to talking you out of doing anything.

We’ve all been where you are right now. You have the strength inside you to find a better life.

i can’t handle it all ive tryed for month in some cases years it just no good its to deep n the only time people give a fuuck is if u show them u mean what u say

If you failed in the past you just didn’t do it right. It’s time to do things differently.

Why are you focusing on other people showing they care? Why are you trying to manipulate other people by threatening to kill yourself?

The only way you will find contentment in life is to focus on being a positive influence in the lives of other people. You can CHOOSE the people you want to influence. You can also CHOOSE the way you want to influence them positively.

When you make these choices and focus on helping others, you find confidence in yourself, self-esteem and energy and you develop positive relationships where people care for you BECAUSE you care for them. No manipulation. No suicidal threats. Just people making each other’s lives better.

if am gone the only people that will notice are the people i owe money to or have pissed off n they want ot do the job them selfs

it not a ther cuz they not on ere they cant c i dnt wanna stand their gion am gunna top meself if u dotn love me in they love me i just can help them back am ****

Awe im sorry i know how you feel :( *hugs*

if your desperate enough to die im sure you can be desperate enough to do some other kind of extreme or maybe not even an extrememe but just change and do things you were afraid to do before that will fix things and make it right other than hurting yourself or anything like that.

Dude, the only point of life is to focus on being a positive influence in the lives of other people, people you CHOOSE to help. That’s how you create caring that both you and they will share. Caring doesn’t come out of nowhere. Caring comes out of efforts you make for people you choose to help. Start making that choice and people will care for you and you will never want to disappear.

i all redy have dissaperd am dust people past thow my life with out me leaveing an impresion

What is it that really happened?

anyoe who gets close get hurt am a horrid person they would be better of wihtout me

Just wait around and if you try even alittle at a time everything can get better

Bah. You’re not horrid. Did you murder anybody? No. So forget about that.

Start being a positive influence in the life of just one other person. Or start with an animal. Focus on that person or animal.

The more you focus on yourself the more you’ll find all the problems we ALL have but usually ignore.

i am horrid i do the oppise of what people need all the time i just want it to be over

so how do you do the oposite? give an example

in the most baisc of forms : tinnie please dont bang your head against the wall it realy upsets me . so i do it all the time i cant help it

You want the feelings of ANXIETY to be over. It’s the anxiety that drives you crazy. The anxiety comes from your FEAR that you will never have the life you want.

THe problem is you are trying to cope with a HUGE problem all at once– your whole life and your effect in this world. When you take on too much, you get overwhelmed and want to quit/die.

Accept that your problem is anxiety. It is a terrible sensation but you can cope with it quite easily with some tricks.

1. Breathing. Deep long breaths in and out. I mean LONG. Focus on making those breaths longer and longer and slower. The more tense you are, the smaller your breaths tend to be which makes you feel worse.

2. Distraction. When you feel bad you start thinking of ALL the bad things that you have done or that ever happened. Those are all in the past. You are also IGNORING all the positive things that ever happened or that you did. So when you feel bad, don’t get sucked into this. Distract yourself with loud music, exercise, some activity that requires concentration like swimming, dancing, photography.

3. Future. You must commit to the future. When you commit to the future then you will look for ways to make it better. As long as you never commit you keep questioning whether it is worth sticking around or killing yourself. You end up wasting a lot of time. When you commit, you feel better. You start looking for ways to be a positive influence in others’ lives.

You can do this. People overcome what you are experiencing all the time. But it has to be YOUR choice.

pretty much everyone messes up so you have to learn to accept its fine and your not even messing up your just creating the delusion that you have messed up but in fact you may have done more good than you think.

anxiety aint what this is .. that work for peole who have something to foucs on not people who have given up

Suicide is NOT the best way to escape your pain. Maybe the easiest, but your life is too valuable to be wasted. You matter on some scale or another. You may cause some people pain, but you can indirectly effect complete strangers in wonderful ways. As for people not caring, MAKE them care. As a human being you can do anything you wish to do, find a purpose in life and stick to it.

Yes, it is anxiety. The most basic part of the human brain deals with anxiety. Anxiety happens whenever you are in a situation you are uncomfortable with. Your brain says FIGHT! or RUN AWAY!

Suicide is your brain telling you to RUN AWAY permanently. This is because you have developed a habit of running away when things make you uncomfortable so your brain is trained to do this. Unfortunately, it always ends up at the extreme of suicide.

The way to change this is to start dealing with anxiety differently. That’s what I described above.

You dont have to give up… in fact by wanting ot commit suicide that means you want to do something to make a change so its cler what you really want is change not death so make a change but not hurting yourself. Just chill out and pretend your someone else, the you that you want to be and have fun and do the things you really want to and it will work out better.

hey were did you go? :S *hugs* come on you still there?