Love help: so, i split up with my in 2002 ish and had dreams about her pretty much non stop till 2004. - Help.com

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Have you tried seeking another relationship sense then?

well yes i was supposed to get married to another girl last Christmas, before she walked out on me. but still the ex before her had something of me that i have never been able to get back. i have never been able to love anyone as deeply……. and i honestly don’t think i ever will, i tried with my last ex.. with moderate success..
i just dont see the point in my life with out her.

Do you see a point in your life with her? If you were with her, how would that change things? Live for yourself brother, it’s hard, I wish I could do it. I wish you the best of luck.

with her my life has a purpose, it gives it meaning. fills that void i have inside.
i have never felt complete after we split up. and living for myself just does not have the same satisfaction as living my life for someone that has my heart completely. she is my personal brand heroin (for lack of a better term)
i felt empty before we met, and i feel empty now.

but i guess once you experience something so full filling and uplifting, going back to a life without it is just blah……
i wish she would have enough nerve to get away from her physically abusive husband
(still talk to her sister and family so i know) and have enough strength to get past the battered wife syndrome and seek out a person that would lay the world at her feet.
when i was by her side she lived off my strengths and i lived of her love.
a perfect yin to my yang, we were each others pillars and without each other we both have sank to low levels in our life’s, much like to point where we were before we met. maybe one day i will meet someone that will have the same effect on me, but i doubt it. i believe in soul mates and she is mine, we still share a deep connection, deep enough to affect each others dreams and daily moods without having spoken in almost 2 years…

I know of love, I have been there, I personally am still fighting. Still dreaming… still hoping but in order to move on we must live for ourselves… not for them. There is happiness, we just have to grab hold. No letting go.

i tried with everything i had with my last ex, we spent a little over 4 years together and were supposed to be married, and i was happy just no were near as happy and complete as i once was, and that is what doomed that relationship. i try to live for myself and have been doing so so for some time now, finishing my college education to be a veterinarian, and chasing my dreams. and every time i get leveled back out she has bad things happen in her life that she needs someone to help her with, and ends up causing me to have dreams about her needing help. and i cant expline how or were these dreams come from because i never know of her problems until weeks or months down the road, as i dont talk to her family but once every few months or so.
its just becoming more then i can bare, its like a roller coaster i cant get off no matter how hard i try.. :(
and belive me i have tried everything, the dreams still come when she is in trouble.
it makes no scence to me, if i could figure out why these dreams are happening to me, and know what the pourpose of me having them is, maybe that would help. but as it is i can only guess that the is a connection there, that wont be broken.
i meen **** 7 years and still able to know when she is in trouble, its really affecting my life badly…. if it would stop it would be nice, and i could move on.
but it has never stoped, and i dont know how to make it stop…………..

Try talking to a sleep psychologist, or a sleep specialist? They be able to help with the dreams. A veternarian is a great job, you’re saving lives; important lives. You could do so much with that! I would recommend try to stop to her family or don’t talk to her when you talk to the family if you have to talk to them.

i will talk with a sleep psychologist that is a great idea, thanks. its better then the other way to make it stop. and her family is like my family we were together for such a long time i could not walk away from them, i did for awhile and the guilt of that about drove me insane.
i know its crazy that 7 years have passed and still cant get her outa my head, but like i said, she was / is my personal drug that brought me to such a high that life without is so blah, its not really life at all its more like surviving, and passing the time until that high returns. and i dont talk to her i wont interfere with her and her husband she has to learn that he is not a good person on her own, as much as i would love to stop the abuse she is going through, its not my place to do so.
but i do know that when she does get away from him, hopefully before he kills her, i will be here to protect her and be her pillar. thanks adam, me ranting about this has helped greatly, i keep all this to myself and just deal with it. its enough to drive me nutz, some days worse then others and today was really bad, worse the normal she must be going through more **** again…

I hope only the best to come; God Speed. :).