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Alright, I belive that you need yto go out and explore with other people. Hope from one person to another and see who you like and who don’t you like. Sure its going to be difficult at first because you’re used to being alone, but you will get used to it in time. I promise. I really think you should try to meet new people.

Yeah, I think your experiencing loneliness. Go make friends and continue to live your life with them. You might not “always” feel liking having someone around but times like this you most likely “want” someone around to talk to/hang out with/ chill with.

hey, you sound pretty darn articulate to me. Anyway, yeh, these characters your looking at are exactly that- ‘characters’. They’re not real, they don’t have anything special except our suspended disbelief. We believe they’re happy and fulfilled because we want to. Their purpose is for escapism or whatever. Normal people do feel inferior and lonely and like they need a cause but it just doesn’t exist. Feeling like this all the time isn’t cool though. Try to pin someone down to talk to about it, and if the problem isn’t loneliness, the solution still lies in unity. Just know that you’re not alone, feeling like this. The feeling has been attempted to be artiulated in all kinds of books and poems and films and things. Here’s some generic bits of advice- Only one life though. Carpe diam, man! a problem shared… etc. :) Best of luck

I think having a sense of purpose is important. Setting life goals and feeling like you are making progress toward them.

I can relate to everything that was mentioned. I’ve thought about what could change my outlook on life, what could brin purpose and I can neverseem to find the answer. I have a lot of failures which I wish I never had. I always say I’m leaning from them and I appear to b coping uite well in reality I am not. I just don’t see the purpose on life sometimes. I don’t get how people cab willingly go along with working in the corporate world when ot doesn’t bring happiness. And yet a lit of times I think maybe I should just submit to the world and conform. Give up on my ambition to do something else because that’s all it is. I do t seek it, failure scares me, aso I sit in my room and dwell on failures and how my life should be.

I was in similar condition as you described for a short period.
I was well-brought up, a hard working college student, yet was feeling some sore inside for no obvious reason and sobbing inside even in normal daily life. I used to joke that my brain is junkyard, because I felt something must be wrong with my feeling. One summer, as I realized that this condition lasted many years and was getting worse, I thought to myself that I will investigate myself to figure out what’s wrong with me. So I sat in my room by myself, self-reflecting all through the summer. And I was chased by unclear thoughts and nebular remorse, and furthermore haunted by the fantasy of death of myself. I cried once before my mother, but was unable to explain. I tried various outlets, but they were didn’t touch the central part of my problem. After or before the summer(can’t remember), I sought a professional counselor but the 3-month long counseling felt irrelevant to me. I didn’t give up the yearning for some sort of ‘full life’ which seemed missing from me. (but my life was apparently productive by external standards) A year later, I moved to a different place for study, leaving my family. After a year and half living in the new environment, I was financially well, had a loving boyfriend, made friends and was not short of party calls on the weekends, but something in me must have hit the rock bottom with the realization that my efforts couldn’t bring the ‘fullness of life’ which I hoped for.
That is already 6 years ago and I have changed a lot. My life-change came not in a epiphanic enlightenment, but by gentle and persistent draw to my current friendship with Jesus Christ. I know how it sounds strange, but one thing I know is that I felt caged up inside, now I am freed. He is wonderful, loving, caring, powerful and extremely gentle. Wonderful thing is that when I go astray and pile up anxieties and worries (as well as envy/sins) upon myself, he knows it better than myself and bring me back to right mind. I heard that Augustine said we don’t find our true rest until we find it in God. This was true for me. Jesus is my peace.
I hope that you don’t feel alone in suffering such state of mind.
I suggest you to ask Jesus for help. If he is real as I said, he will surely help you. My wishes and prayers are for your freedom of inner person.

Cambridge MA, USA

I know how you feels, a man without a purpose is nothing, a nobody, but you have to take the first step of walking out of that cycle, you have to realize that no one can help you out but yourself, just go out and make some friends , talk to someone, remember life is how you make it, you can decide to live your life alone, or share your life with other nice people out there. it is all up to you .

best of luck

Peter, NY. USA.

I found your observation fascinating; in that people who report the illusive quality of what we call “happiness” are most often caught being happy in performing some task they feel provides a reward.

i.e. I lifted 5 lbs yesterday and 6 lbs today.

Or planted a seed, and cultivated the plant until it had grown.

Identify one or two things that you enjoy doing. Make yourself begin to do those things whether you feel like it or not. If there’s an opportunity to share the activity with other people, most definately.