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Take a hint. She does not want to come see you.

kind of a jerk way to say it but i kinda figured thats what it was, just wanted someone to back it up

yeah, i think she is just busy. i just texted her asking if she bought a dress yet for the event. she said she has been too busy to go shopping but she is going soon. so i’m assuming she is still interested in coming to visit, otherwise it would be pretty rude to pretend that she was interested just so she wouldnt have to tell me. and i mean im not her boyfriend so i can’t really give her crap about not calling me last night, but it is kind of rude to do that no matter what type of relationship you have with someone. i’m 24, she is 21

She’s playing you and she’s not coming. I would not count on it. Read between the lines.

yes i would sadly agree with them too.maybe with this girl not coming aroud ,u can meet a girl closer to you that way a real relationship can form because truthfully the long distance thing never works if people aren’t willing to change

well she said she will call me tonight, so if she doesn’t i guess i will take the hint

There’s no blinder person than the one who does not want to see.

Take a hint.

so true .

maybe you are right, i will give her the benefit of the doubt unless she doesn’t call me tonight. two days in a row of saying your going to call and not, then i will take the hint

Dude, this is the difference between trying to attract a girl by being a nice guy (buying her stuff and doing her favours) and by being confident, busy, and cool.

You played the nice guy. The nice guy does not attract women for romance. And can lead to some positive feelings like a sister would feel for a brother but it does not work. Never NEVER NEVER buy things or do favours for girls to attract them to you. You do that stuff AFTER she’s fallen for YOU (not what you do for her) head over heels and she’s your girlfriend.

I read a great explanation once: nice guys are basically using manipulation– they try to manipulate a girl into liking them by doing stuff for them. Don’t be the nice guy.

well, while i basically agree with you. i dont see how buying her a plane ticket to come see me is trying to buy her affection or me trying to manipulate her. since she was the one who originally pursued me, saying how she was thinking about me all the time and wants to come see me really bad. i will wait until tonight, to see if she calls me. i will post it, so you can see if i was a blind idiot or just a bit paranoid.

Anonymous wrote:
i dont see how buying her a plane ticket to come see me is trying to buy her affection or me trying to manipulate her

Keep thinking about it. You spent $400 on some girl who is neither a friend or girlfriend because you wanted to see her (regardless of who suggested it first) and have something develop between you two. You spent $$ and you expected results.

true, you are right i guess i am expecting something. and maybe i did play the nice guy in the scenario. but i guess i already did get what i wanted, just wanted a replay. i mean if it doesnt work out im out a decent chunk of change, **** happens

Are there no girls where you live? Where do you live, the North Pole?

who said anything about there not being any girls? i just happen to like this girl, what does girls in my area have to do with anything that i wrote about? i thought this was a help website not a belittle someone website

ah! she just called me when she got out of class. she apologized for not calling me last night, and she is excited to come up next week! she said she doesnt care if i am not able to get tickets to the event she is pumped to come either way! i figured i was just being paranoid!