life help: I’m a bad person. - Help.com

You do care about everything you said you don’t care about, you’re just depressed. How old are you? You might wanna try talking to a counselor. They can help you feel better. Depression in teenagers is a pretty common thing. You’ll get over it eventually. Until then just try and calm down when you’re feeling blue.

There are lots of people like this out there.

Sometimes, our burdens are so great that our minds prevent us from dealing with them as we expect to. Instead, we become numb. We become emotionless because emotion hurts too much. It’s a self-preservation mechanism, in a way. But, some emotion filters through sometimes. Guilt, anger, resentment, feelings of worthlessnes..

It all gets out of balance.

But you can restore that balance. The best way is to talk to a doctor or a school counsellor - they will have seen this situation so many times. You are by no means alone in how you feel.

The doctor will look into whether there is something chemical/physical making matters worse for you. He may recommend a particular therapy or prescribe a medication that will help you get back on track. Counsellors can help to bring deep-rooted problems out into the open where you can begin to resolve them bit by bit.

You need to remind yourself that you are not crazy, not evil, not worthless. You are going through a difficult set of circumstances and stress has affected you. You can be helped to feel happier and to get through :)

depression… go worship

i realized that was a retarded post… i guess i’m kinda apathetic myself right now :)

WTFH, snap out of it. If you whont to die that much you whold have by know, and eneyway your not that sort of person. whether you like it or not, OTHERS cear about you, THAT is why you have frends, THAT is why you have family, THAT is why you are here, venting your frustration. I get the same thoughts all the **** TIME, but the sun will always shine after the storm. hell my family might not be droping left, right and center but you have your frends to go to, YOU HAVE US. EVERY time i make a mistake, mum gos and crys in her room, DO YOU KNOW WHAT THATS LIKE! NOT BEING ABLE TO DO A DAM THING!!!YOU are better than that…

what you need to do is hold out till you hit 18 and find your own way…
thats what i’m gunna do…

What brought this on anyway?

231 sweetheart, you have been through a lot and have unresolved grief it seems.

From your post, it sounds like a parent has behaved in a way that feels like you’ve been betrayed too…

I’m not at all surprised you feel this way.

But, like I say, there are solutions. Bit by bit, you can be helped to be happy again.

Trust me. You have beautiful times ahead of you even thoug they are probably impossible for you to imagine right now. Don’t allow depression to deny you them.

231me231 wrote:
my aunts birthday is on the 5th and my mum keep crying because of it, she died last december of cancer. and my grandad has fallen ill with it so everyones worried that he might end up like my aunt. and my mums planing a birthday party for my aunt thats only a week and a bit before my own. death seems to surround me so why not become friends with it?

frends?!? death is end game, you don’t whant it nor need it. just hang on, grit you teeth, AND TALK TO US, and if you can’t find someone who you can talk to…

we are all here to HELP and try and be there for your mum, and be cearful, cancer can be genetic.

Your mum is grieving still. People grieve in different ways and for some, it means having to cry openly, talk about the person who they have lost, have ceremonies…

Death doesn’t surround you.

What you are witnessing in your mother is very much a necessary healing process. It’s a LIFE process.

Of course everyone is worrying about Grandad. But what he needs is for people to try to be positive. Not masks, not false smiles.. being positive means telling yourself “this is not a good situation but we can work together to improve it”. How? By finding practical ways to help. It might be getting involved with something like walking his plants or making sure he doesn’t miss his favourite programme if he has to go to an appointment. These little things give you focus and help remove some of Grandad’s tiny worries. The doctors tell us that this helps people to stay as well as possible.

Grandad and Mum would love to see you planning your birthday I’m sure. What do you think you might do?

walking his plants???? that was meant to say walking his dog or watering his plants! sheesh… I will have nightmares of Triffids being walked about now.

i don’t think ur heartless, i am the same.. 3 ppl have died related to me within 2 months an yer i dont give a **** anymore.. cuz everyone is dying around me too.. i didnt cry at the funerals either.

i think you care.thats your way to cope with it.sooner or later you will.did you ever think their is a reason for you to be here!far as being a good for nothing quit putting yourself down.believe in yourself others will.we all deal with life and death in our own way.you are hurt and tired of watching people you care about die.sad but thats part of life.i will pray for you.give life a chance

Certainly most of the things happening around you are not your fault, so don’t blame yourself for anything.

Do you do any activities for fun? If not, what did you used to do? What are some things that appeal to you? You need to take those ideas and start using them! You say your life’s going nowhere as if it’s a bad thing, well then change it! Every person has to be productive in some way to be at peace with themselves.

Just because bad things happen to you does not mean YOU are a bad person! Nonsense.

Well, I think you should do something special :) It doesn’t have to be big or expensive..

Why not invite a friend around and have a pamper day? Or rent a couple of dvd’s and make some popcorn?

Tell yourself it’s YOUR day and enjoy it.

It’s very late. Do you have to go to school tomorrow? Maybe you should try and rest now. Rest is a wonderful healer.

231me231 wrote:
its 3am here, and half term so im okay with staying up, nothing to do anyway. no hobbies, no interests.

hahaha c’mon I know there’s *something* that makes you feel human. Give it up now, don’t be embarrassed to say.

3 am here too. :)

You still need to rest. We may feel physically ok, but our cells need time to repair. When you have a troubled mind, it’s important that you don’t add to it’s difficulties phsyically.

Have you ever tried aromatherapy and colour therapy? You could spend some time looking into what it’s all about. Amazingly, they can work wonders. I was very sceptical until I tried it myself. As long as you follow the guidelines very carefully, aromatherapy is very effective at reducing stress. Lavender oil is the first oil to try (but don’t get it on your skin). Do some googling and see what you think. It even works for animals. You know how cats love catnip? Catnip has a very similar chemical to lavender in it. Cats use it like a therapy to help them feel good.

You could fish around for some interesting new hobby ideas too. Hobbies are therapeutic. They help to empty our minds and give us a new focus. There are so many ideas out there. Cardmaking, beadcraft, jewellery making, graffiti art… your local adult education centre will have lists of things you can try out. Most do Saturday workshops (I just had a go at nail art!) and they are very cheap - sometimes even free - if you are still in education. It’s a great way of getting out and doing things.

I have to go now, but I’m thinking of you. Let me know what ideas you come up with for your birthday. What about doing something crazy for Children in Need as a birthday bash? Might be fun!

If you want to talk to someone, you know childline will listen anytime don’t you? Their number is 0800 11 11

Take care. Things will work out just fine, you’ll see :)