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where does guilt come from?

For instance the other night i went out and was drunk and embarresed myself , basically, I let go of my inhibitions and now I feel guilty about it. i feel lik ehtose people will hate me? but giult in general is what im wondering. any thoughts?

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MyNameIS_CharloTTe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

theres two type of guilt

1) When you did sometimes you feel hurt someone elses feelings and you start feeling bad about what you did and you feel regret or something. (Feeling bad bout urself)

2) When you think you did something stupid and you wish you had never done it and you feel so stupid after that. (Angry at self)

Well thats what i think.

wait what r u guilty about? Getting drunk or embarrasing yourself?? hmmmm

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

It is our sence of morality & decency that causes us to feel remorseful after doing something that our conscience does not agree with.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (33 minutes after post)

I feel the same, you are not the only one that feels that way.
We have inibitions to keep ourself feeling safe and secure, when we loose our inhibitions we open ourself and sometimes we open ourselves to ourselves and we see things in ourself that we dont normally see.

You shouldn’t feel bad or guilty. When I get like that, I know it is because I am just paranoid.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (4 hours, 47 minutes after post)

What you’ve got there is a nasty case of shame buddy. Similar to guilt the mistake is common but there is a key difference. Guilt has an empathetic core while shame is built on a foundation of stoicism. Guilt stems from either an understanding that you’ve wronged someone or something, and usually does so as the memory of action clashes with your own sense of morals or ,again, you have come to understand the view point of the wronged party.

Shame is a bit different where in the memory of action with clash either with your sense of morals or more often, your sense of self. Most shame stems from a person’s inability to accept an aspect of themselves, resulting in feelings of regret targeted at the self.

There is a needlessly long answer. Regarding your particular dilemna, call it a learning experience and drink less in the future. You can’t change the past, just learn from it. Enjoy.

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