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Join a group that will be together on the holidays
Invite others over to see you
Volunteer with a group that serves others during the holidays

volunteer or go impose on some friends..i’m sure they would be glad to have you :D

Sometimes being alone is a choice. You can choose not to be alone.

littlenick wrote:
Sometimes being alone is a choice. You can choose not to be alone.

That’s what I was gonna say…

celebrate that you can do what you want, how you want - the tv is all yours, you could eat cocoa pops for dinner and no one would whine at you, and you won’t be caught up in any family, friend tension that seems to come with all but Hollywood get togethers!

And then when the holidays are over and everyone else is stone broke and shattered, you could swan off and do something really cool.

Being alone doesn’t last if you learn to love it. Don’t be afraid to venture out!

There are lots of ways to not be alone, but the real goal is not just finding companionship — it’s finding people who actually want YOU to be with them — in other words, what a family is supposed to be. Family is crucial. If you don’t have a supportive family by blood or marriage, try to create a family of friends. Try Creating Extended Families.

Or, learn to appreciate it :)

I wish I could get a holiday to myself. Love my friends deeply and they are my life, but I would be exceptionally happy to spend a holiday to myself, just relaxing. Being able to explore myself, being able to be selfish without feeling guilty.

Coalesce wrote:
Or, learn to appreciate it :)

I wish I could get a holiday to myself. Love my friends deeply and they are my life, but I would be exceptionally happy to spend a holiday to myself, just relaxing. Being able to explore myself, being able to be selfish without feeling guilty.

I did that a couple years ago. Just travelled to another country over Christmas. For the most part I was absolutely free of any references to the holiday whatsoever… I emailed back travel notes and pix.

It’s ok to do that when it’s your choice, but it’s a whole different thing when being alone isn’t your choice. You can’t help the family you were born with, and because the majority of marriages fail, building a life around a romantic partner isn’t that stable. It’s too bad that the extended family has disintegrated for most people. Having a strong extended family would allow you to choose to be alone if you wanted, but give you the support when you need it, like at the holidays. Creating an extended family seems like a good solution, when the majority of marriages are failing.