friend help: I am going to a school square dance with a really awkward friend.

sadie jo

I am going to a school square dance with a really awkward friend.

He is really strange, has a glass eye and a crush on me. How do I make sure that he understands that he doesn’t even have a chance with me?

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Anonymous #
3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Ohhhh are you a stunner then?

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Why are you going with him? Pity?

Why do you feel compelled to make it clear he has no chance with you? Your own vanity?

If you are a “friend” why don’t you concentrate on helping him find someone who can appreciate him at the dance?

Or at least help him overcome his awkwardness and get some confidence. Teach him a few steps. Give him some hints.

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Anonymous #
3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Obviously if there is no chance, it woiuld be wrong for him to think otherwise, but you shouldn’t tell him in a way that would crush whatever confidence he has - you should definitely help him come out of his shell a bit. Maybe introduce him to some of your other friends and help bridge the awkwardness with your own conversation. I also have a friend who is amazingly socially awkward (although he doesn’t have a crush on me!) and I helped him by making him come and talk to my other friends and then slipping away for some periods of time and he realised socialising isn’t all that bad (although he can still be awkward sometimes - people confuse it with clingy). Good luck - I hope you want to help your friend :)
Remember - if he is awkward because he is quiet, quiet people often make the best friends because they listen to everything going on…

Anonymous #
3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

Why is he really strange? You’re sounding a bit judgemental and irrational here…
You shouldn’t tell him up front that he hasn’t a chance, ..

Anonymous wrote:
you shouldn’t tell him in a way that would crush whatever confidence he has - you should definitely help him come out of his shell a bit.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

I’m not anything like a supermodel, neither is he. The problem is that he is one of those awkward people who lost part of their childhood to cancer and as a result are a couple years behind in the social maturing process. Also I just broke up with by boyfriend last week. He doesn’t understand that my break up means that I need time to myself; he thinks that since I am single I can be more than a friend and be a true date.

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Anonymous #
3 weeks ago (14 hours, 40 minutes after post)

Then you have to let him know that you can’t, and that you are only friends.

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