dating help: Ladies, have you ever had a “popular” guy like you? - Help.com

anonymis2 wrote:
haha, are you kidding me? You’re asking if “these” guys only go for a certain type? Your words seem to describe me pretty well and your question seems comical, because it seems you’re trying to put everything in life into a categorical box.

Let me tell you that there will always be people that will not fit into the box no matter how hard you try to get them in there.

Personally, if I am physically attracted to a girl AND she has a nice, easy-going personality, I ll go for it, otherwise, no matter how fine or curvacious she may be, I stay away.

sorry if i offended you or anything. but people really always stereotype guys/girls like that. it happens everywhere. and most of us dont know or wouldnt care to venture into the “popularity circle” to find out about them.

and i was wondering should a girl feel self-conscious facing such a guy?

Silverwings wrote:
Yes, I most def. have, and his name is Jesus. ^J^

since when has jesus been a manwhore? i didnt think hed be too good with teh ladiez, considering the whole zombie deal…

anywho.
if you are a self conscious person, who cannot simply trust that the guy she is with is not going to worry about that female attention, then you shouldnt go anywhere near this type of guy with a ten foot barge pole.
women arent just going to stop trying to talk to him because youre with him, and it will breed jealousy till you turn into an horrendously ugly green eyed monster.

the fact you kind of even need to ask this question suggests you should perhaps not even look for any type of relationship, and instead work on your own self esteem till you can be confident in yourself, and these types of issues dont even cross your mind when you consider dating.

courtybubble wrote:

Silverwings wrote:
Yes, I most def. have, and his name is Jesus. ^J^

since when has jesus been a manwhore? i didnt think hed be too good with teh ladiez, considering the whole zombie deal…

anywho.
if you are a self conscious person, who cannot simply trust that the guy she is with is not going to worry about that female attention, then you shouldnt go anywhere near this type of guy with a ten foot barge pole.
women arent just going to stop trying to talk to him because youre with him, and it will breed jealousy till you turn into an horrendously ugly green eyed monster.

the fact you kind of even need to ask this question suggests you should perhaps not even look for any type of relationship, and instead work on your own self esteem till you can be confident in yourself, and these types of issues dont even cross your mind when you consider dating.

hahahaha. well. everyone has self-esteem issues in my opinion, it just depends on the degree of it. and imo, im not anymore different than the average girl who has her insecurities from time to time. that doesnt mean i can’t be in a relationship. lots of more insecure girls do have bfs. thx.

anyway, im not the very jealous type. even after awhile i think, if one is dating a guy like that, you should just get used to the female attention and live with it knowing he chose you over those girls anyway. i think people who cant deal with those issues shouldnt date the more popular ones. jealousy makes one look ugly anyway. and who knows, if the guy sees that his gf can deal with all that vying female attention and not get jealous (as would be expected), who knows, he might like &respect her even more :P

afewf wrote:

self-concious? No, not at all. Honestly, most guys like knowing that the girl is being herself. If you are self-conscious, then you will hold back on your true character, which to me, is a turn off, because you should be comfortable being yourself, otherwise, we may suspect you are either insecure/hiding something…plus, you tend to have way more fun when you’re not worrying about yourself so much and just focus on the moment.

true!! =D oh so true.