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I’m sick of getting hurt by men I get involved with.
I should’ve known better than to get involved with someone I have to see for 3 days a week for 2 hours at a time…This guy I was seeing on and off from Jan - end of August really hurt me. I’m not frivolous w/ my body or my emotions, and I told him this. So finally after months of should we shouldn’t we, we got physical and immediately afterward he got dressed and told me that he was still sleeping w/ his ex-girlfriend and had been for about a year. He said he “didn’t feel right about this” and that he didn’t want to “lead me along.” Three days later, he was kinda hitting on one of my friends when we were all out at a bar- I was sitting across the table. I called him out on it, he denied it and I told him I was upset w/ him and that I thought that he at least liked me a little. (Why else would you get involved w/ someone for almost 9 months? Even though it was on and off b/c he was really adamant and then he would get really hesitant) He replied: “I do like you, I just don’t romantically like you.” and that he “didn’t want to be seeing (dating) anyone at all” at the moment. W/in a month he was dating someone in a class we have together and she is now his girlfriend. (This esp hurts b/c he told me that he wasn’t looking for a gf and he’s a notorious commitment-phobe) I have class w/ them for 2 hours a piece on Tuesdays and Thursdays and the classroom is in a horseshoe shape so I face both of them. I feel so low and terrible. She’s really pretty and smart but she’s also kinda snobby. (Example: she basically said that people who weren’t in the top 10% of the class weren’t going to be able to get jobs to people when she doesn’t know what their rank is, she’s generally not friendly, but it could most definitely also be shyness, and she won’t share notes w/ someone misses a class) And I know she kinda screwed over one of my guy friends last year and led him on for awhile then made out w/ some other guy in front of him just to make sure he knew she wasn’t interested. And I don’t know her super well or anything, so I’m not trying to trash talk, I’m just feeling really low. And I’m mentioning these things because they are things that I would NEVER do. What’s even worse is, I still can’t get this guy out of my head…it’ll just take time I guess. But for now I’m just wondering how to not feel so bitter. I really cared about him and I’m really angry because a lot of people at school were trash talking him last year for being arrogant and condescending and I stuck up for him and truly saw the good in him. It also hurts even more because the guy I was in love w/ in college, who was also my best friend, did something very similar to what this guy did. So it just reminds me of that and then I feel worse….Also, I dread Tuesdays and Thursdays and feel like I’m going to be sick during those days esp in class…
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