So…I was sure that I’d get to college and make friends and it wouldn’t be bad anymore. - Help.com

Quit cutting and try to make other friends.

Quit posting and go out.

go out Where and with who

Go to A halloween party.

Go here: http://dmlive.com/ there’s a hotline on there that are active with helping cutters stop cutting.

But get a new crowd of friends. You need and deserve some that are supportive and caring. Hang out in different places to kind of set yourself amongst the crowd of college students you’re being exposed to. You need to make that change now, especially since you’re in college. Remember that “friends” or “potential friends” won’t just come to you, you have to go to them also. Make the effort.

Make plans later with your friends that you don’t hang out with too often. People can all be different given the new environment. :) You might have people in your life that you never knew could be a real, true friend.

And how do YOU feel about yourself?

Friends will come and go.

You need to be the one who appreciates yourself. From that all else follows.

Snar wrote:
And how do YOU feel about yourself?

Friends will come and go.

You need to be the one who appreciates yourself. From that all else follows.

Listen to Snar. He knows what he’s talking about.

Thanks nick, generally I do :P

kanneybby - thanks :)
snar - …i’d rather not focus on how i feel about myself. it tends to mirror how people feel about me.

It sounds like the real problem is that you hate you, and you project your feelings onto others. Could you see any of this as possible? Carol

candp- i was respectfully asked via a note to stop going to dinner with my friends anymore because i take up a chair.

Yeah, anonymous you seriously don’t deserve people like that. They’re honestly not worth your friendship. And I think if you continue to be around them they’ll just make you feel worse. I know for a fact that I wouldn’t want that for you, and I don’t even have to know you to tell you that. Get new friends.

Did all of your friends sign the note?

candp wrote:
It sounds like the real problem is that you hate you, and you project your feelings onto others. Could you see any of this as possible? Carol

Exactly my point.

OP you will not fix your problems by getting new friends, you need to like yourself before people can like you.

Anonymous wrote:
candp- i was respectfully asked via a note to stop going to dinner with my friends anymore because i take up a chair.

Heck mate, those are friends you don’t need. It’s their loss.

people dont wanna be around negativity dood, and its emenating from you like a black mans toothy smile in the dark.
ok that was a bad joke, but you get what i mean.
no ones gonna like you unless you do. desperation and negativity is obvious, and people avoid it like the plague.
work on yourself first, and the rest will follow.