friendship help: I can’t do anything about losing my best friend.

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I can’t do anything about losing my best friend.

A new relationship has taken it’s toll on our relationship and now, my confidant is another person. We’ve been friends for years. He is the person I have turned to and I am currently at a very rough point in my life and feel a bit left out in the cold. We now eat out on occasion but as far as anything else, it seems it will involve me and my friend AND the boyfriend. I want to cope with it but don’t know where to begin. Please, can anyone offer some advice?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

Start making new freinds. There’s only a very finite lifetime to most friendships and as we change we need different things and we get those things from different people. Those that change with us are our very best lifelong friends or partners and we need those people the most.

This is what your friend has found. It doesn’t mean your friendship meant any less; it just means she’s found someone else who she can be with too. Don’t try to take that away from her because she won’t forgive you for hurting her like that and the reason is that you’re her freind too.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

Huh? So you got a boyfriend and now you lost your best friend? Vice versa? What? Three people can not be best friends easily. Accept it.

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1 month ago (17 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Huh? So you got a boyfriend and now you lost your best friend? Vice versa? What? Three people can not be best friends easily. Accept it.

I do accept it. If you read what I wrote I was just looking to get ideas to cope. I am in no way not wanting to be friends with both people, was just missing the little moments of friend time. That’s all. I had alot of loss and coping is on occasion hard but I do try. I am human though, and I sometimes don’t know what else to do.

Dr. Ralph 64 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

I have read it. Several times but it is not really clear. Your best friend and a boy you used to turn to are now together so you have no one to confide in alone? Am I getting closer?

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1 month ago (29 minutes after post)

Om I’m sorry =( Yes my best friend is in a relationship (I should mention it’s a bit of a challenging new relationship) and although we do things together (the 3 of us) the new person has alot of baggage and requires quite a bit of my friends time, energy, etc. I can see that due to the stress, our time to just do little things here and there, is strained and when it isnt’, it involves us being a party of 3. I enjoy group activities, I do. It just seems that is ALL we do. I am not trying to change anything since it is beyond my control so I am just trying to figure out how to handle it being that my best friend and I have been there for each other for many years. I know it will take time…=\

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