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I need to be honest to my boyfriend about my feelings.

But I dont know how, I’m too afraid of hurting him. He’s hurting my feelings with some little things he does or doesn’t do. Like having no time for me when among his friends, not looking at me when he talks to me , and the fact that he always waits for hir friends to do something during the weekend, and if they don’t then I’m good enough. Am I stupid for wanting him to take initative and ask me to do something on the weekends, not 1 hour before but a few days before?
I need to be honest with him, cause now, when he hurts my feelings I go all quiet towards him but I never tell him what I’m feeling.
How do I start telling him what I’m feeling without hurting him or upsetting him?
He yesterday said ‘I’m so happy we never fight and I never ever want to fight with you’. which makes it harder. But telling my feelings doesn’t have to result in a fight right?
thanks in advance
x

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Cannonball Girl offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Susanville, CA, US | 3 weeks, 6 days ago (16 minutes after post)

nope it doesn’t have to end up as a fight. just make sure to keep your voice even and nice. if you want a relationship with this person you’re going to have to be honest about how you feel.
If you don’t want to have a sit down chat perhaps next time he asks you last minute like that you can decline, saying you already have plans and say “babe, i’m sorry, next time let me know more ahead of time.” and see how that goes.
with other things like you don’t think he spends enough time with you or doesn’t seem to look at you when he speaks to you, you’re going to have to bring it to his attention. and hey, if things just don’t improve, perhaps he’s not the one for you. the relationship shouldn’t make you miserable, it should make you happy.

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r.thomas.thomas7 offline Verified User (2 weeks, 5 days) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (1 week after post)

did you tell him that he was hurting your feelings

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