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I need some serious advice.

I’m not sure what to do or where to go from here. I am 20 years old, and I’m 5 months pregnant. I’m not working currently either because the job I held previously was physically demanding and although I asked for help, nobody would assist me despite the fact that I am pregnant. People would agree to help me, and then my managers would tell them not to because the place I worked was huge on personal responsiblity, I guess with disregard to saftey. I was living with a friend at the time. I watched her children afterwards. I fed them, brought them to and from school and she took every penny I had left to my name, literally. She literally took my last penny while counting change for cigarettes and other things that she didn’t need. I eventually ended up moving back home with my Grandmother, come to find out that she is losing her home in three months and has to move in with her daughter, my mother. My mother doesn’t want me around and makes it clear. It hurts every day. Every day gets more upsetting, to the point where I’m making myself sick and during my last ultrasound, my baby went from being completely healthy to running risk of complications or death at worst-case scenerio. I need advice. I can’t move into my mother’s house in 3 months, and so I’m afraid that maybe I’ll have to give my baby up and become homeless until I figure out what to do. I really have no idea what to do or where to go from here.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 81 #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (3 minutes after post)

Who is the father and where is the father? This child is not yours alone it takes two to raise a child. Give it up if you can’t provide for it.

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candp offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 234 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (10 minutes after post)

Ditto. Also, are you in the states, and if so, what state?

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amlfhs0 offline Verified User (2 weeks, 6 days) Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (12 minutes after post)

The father isn’t in the picture anymore. And I disagree with the statement that it takes two to raise a child. There are plenty of single mothers and fathers in the world, probably more so than couples. I live in MD.

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candp offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 234 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (14 minutes after post)

Check out your welfare division tomorrow. They can arrange for food stamps and a rent subsidy. Also, insurance coverage if you need it.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 81 #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (15 minutes after post)

It doesn’t take two if you have money to pay for someone else to watch it… or if you have enough money to stay at home and take care of your child, but obviously you don’t. Go get in line for your government check and housing.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (16 minutes after post)

Find the father of the child and sue him for child support.

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darkscorpia offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (35 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
Find the father of the child and sue him for child support.

agreed. You can’t do this alone. I mean you can, but with money and unless you rob a bank or something of the sort i don’t think you can get it because the people around you seem to be in a similar situation financially. Why doesn’t your mother want you around? what’s the story there?

I think that if you think someone else can care for you baby better then you can, it will take a lot of courage and love to give it up.

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ukusagirl3 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 week, 5 days ago (1 week after post)

It sounds like you are young and inexperienced. You need someone to advocate for you . Do you want to keep your baby? Are you happy in the area you live in? If not you need to find somewhere else to go . Somewhere safe where you can stay until you have your baby. Maybe I can help?

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