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Any hope for reconciliation?

My first love and I were together for about 1 year and 2 months and broke up because… I was a *****, I mistreated him and I sorta dumped him for another guy… :/ it was a mistake and I regret it so badly. I can’t go back in time and I can’t take back the things I did. I hurt him and I’ve apologized countless times.

My ex was a good guy. He was the sweetest person alive and I took advantage of him. I bruised his ego and damaged his pride. :( I apologized and he said he forgave me… but it’s very apparent he didn’t. People now tell me he’s sort of bitter and not so fun loving anymore. :/

Now, it’s been 6 months since we’ve broken up, and we haven’t spoken for 3 months.

I’ve changed A LOT. And so has he. I changed for the better, I’d like to believe and it seems like he’s changed for the worst.

He has told people (including my friends!) that he never loved me while we were together. He said he had no reason to love me. Ouch. The guy who’d call me babe, now calls me a *****. The guy who said he’d love me always, now HATES me.

I’ve already apologized so there’s not much I can do. :( plus he’s telling everyone he’s COMPLETELY over me and yet he’s not talking to me.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I know I should forget and move on but it’s not that simple trying to get over your first love. Especially since we’re not in the best terms right now. I’ve written him an apology letter and am planning on sending it when the time is right.

I would love to talk to him again. But I don’t know if he wants me to or not.

We both still have each other as friends on myspace (I know it seems silly considering it’s myspace and all) but if he hates me, shouldn’t he delete me?

I don’t know… people!

My questions:
- Does he truly hate me?
- How long should I wait ’till I give him the apology letter?
- I still love him (possibly always will), do you think I can EVER get him back?

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Anonymous #
3 weeks, 2 days ago (13 minutes after post)

if hes still friends with you odds are he doesnt hate you as much as you think. you should give him the apology letter asap! just keep apologizing. try to get him back, but this time treat him right. be nice to him. you already hurt him its up to him if he accept you back.

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Anonymous #
3 weeks, 2 days ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

You hurt him and yes he hates you…. or at least he wants to… you treated him appallingly what else do you expect.

My ex dumped me… went back to an old girlfriend of his because he knew it would bug me and then tried to get back with me… it’s not going to happen… i love him…. i always will… but that was never in question…. he never had reason to doubt it…. he treated me like dirt because i let him… i won’t make that mistake again…. He’s still on my msn and facebook as a friend… i won’t delete him because i like the idea of him sat there wondering if i love or hate him…. it’s his own fault… just like it’s your own fault… leave the guy alone…. he deserves better and you can’t turn back the clock.

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Anonymous #
3 weeks, 2 days ago (5 hours, 41 minutes after post)

You should just send him the apology letter and see what happens.. if it’s been 3 months since you two talked, if you wait longer, it could be too late.. but if he didn’t show interest, then move on and leave him alone too.

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