Love help: I’m in desperate need for help.. - Help.com



This post left anonymously

I’m in desperate need for help..

My boyfriend and I had a quarrel yesterday. Told him the night before that, that I would staying over in a guy friend’s house. I asked if it was alright, and he said he’s fine by it. After leaving the house, he texted me saying he honestly wasn’t okay with it. That was because he thought that the place I was going to stay over is dangerous.

By then, I was on the way out to club and I didn’t tell him that. I have no idea what made me not tell him, but I didn’t.. I guess I was afraid that he’d be mad, since he’s already worried that I was staying over in my friend’s place.

The next day, he picked me up from my friend’s house and he seemed a little zoned out due to tiredness and he said he was hungry as well. During breakfast, I told him that I was out clubbing the night before and he got angry. He got even more mad at the fact that my friends and I took a cab there.

I don’t know what to do now, I don’t know what to say.. Please.. I need your help.. I’m blanked out..

This open post was written 1 month, 1 week ago | V/U/S: 104, 11, 6 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post


Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.

Post Tags (2)

Relationships, Love (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Replies (11)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

Anonymous #
1 month, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

He has to let you be free. Just be honest but don’t back down if he trys to stop you doing something and grant him the same freedom.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Anonymous #
1 month, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

would it help if you apologized for not telling him?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chyl.lyn offline Verified User (1 month, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
would it help if you apologized for not telling him?

I did apologize, but he still is mad. Should I try to talk to him, or let him cool down first?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "" 1 month, 1 week ago.

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Relationships" 1 month, 1 week ago.

Anonymous #
1 month, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

i would let him cool down first and then talk depending on how mad he is

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
MyNameIS_CharloTTe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

Let him cool… he probably was jealous and being protective. seems like he means well. Apologize when he’s calm.

~CharloTTe
help wit mine?
:) smile!

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: Define friendship.
Anonymous #
1 month, 1 week ago (12 hours, 10 minutes after post)

not being funny but how would u like it if he stayed at another girls house…?! just split up with him, it doesnt like u care about his feelings to much anyway.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Anonymous #
1 month ago (21 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Yea, why would you go to a club and not tell your bf and then stay over at a guy-friend’s place! Are you listening to yourself? And you wonder why he’s mad? If you care about him tell him you made a mistake because given the facts, it sounds like a mistake.. but if you don’t care, don’t waste yours or his time.

Anonymous wrote:
not being funny but how would u like it if he stayed at another girls house…?! just split up with him, it doesnt like u care about his feelings to much anyway.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
chyl.lyn offline Verified User (1 month, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (23 hours, 1 minute after post)

Hey all, thanks for helping out. Had a talk with him yesterday and everything’s pretty solved already. Am definitely not going to repeat the same mistake twice, and learned my lesson the hard way already. Thanks again..

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Anonymous #
1 month ago (1 day after post)

Good job and congrats :) I’m happy for you both!

chyl.lyn wrote:
Hey all, thanks for helping out. Had a talk with him yesterday and everything’s pretty solved already. Am definitely not going to repeat the same mistake twice, and learned my lesson the hard way already. Thanks again..

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.