is it ok that i feel this way has anyone been through this? - Help.com

There is a very strong possibility that having seen his daughter born he will want to try again…. not because he loves his ex or even wants to be with her but because he loves his child… you have to accept that and move on…. don’t pester him… let him settle into his life with his child… if he is meant to be with you then he will.

i am trying giving him his space. like i said, i’m not going to call i’m going to let him come around himself. this is quite the event..and, he DOES have to settle in..the wait is killing me though, and I can’t believe how pathetic and crazy I have been..and its only been a couple days.
If he did want to go back to her, I would understand. Would break my heart, but I would let him go.

You’d have no choice but to let him go…. and in my opinion…. you’ve been together six weeks by my calculations… at a time when his ex was heavily pregnant with his child… what did you see in a guy who wasn’t with his partner at a time like that…. and yes i know there are women out there who get pregnant on purpose… and men who wish it had never happened but in all honesty i’m not sure it was the best time to get involved with him… but i guess he will prove it one way or another over the next few days/weeks.

I agree with Anonymous, you should just let him go. I do recommend that you should try and talk to him and tell each other your feelings and how much do you want to be with each other. But get back to me if you have anymore troubles ok

i really don’t think it was the best time either. i often think its not the best time. we’ve had conversations on this too..we really have talked about quite a bit. we’re pretty open.
and i guess the situation was that…well, he’s in the navy (another part that is going to make this relationship difficult depending on how long it lasts) and he was with her for over four years..but he was in japan for those four years. and then he got back..and realized that there really wasn’t anything there. and then when he was moving to end it, she told him she was pregnant. and i guess while she’s been pregnant she’s made moves to get back together with him, which he has declined.
But this is all what he has just told me.
thinking on it, i really am looking for him to prove that he really does want to try and make THIS work for a while. honestly, i’m still waiting for him to pull out, change his mind about being with me..and when i told him this he told me to quit waiting, “because its not going to happen.”
i’m just waiting to see. i think i’m clear on how she feels and i this is a complicated situation for him..i would understand if he ended it.

getting involved with him, especailly at this time, probably wasn’t the best idea. on the other hand, i can’t help how i feel.

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He isn’t going to be able to walk away from this….. he’s in the navy so she’s got him banged to rights…. they’ll make him face up to his responsibilites although it sounds like he intends to anyway.

Can i just point out one little thing…. he was away for a long time… came home and decided the marriage/relationship wasn’t going to work… yet she still got pregnant…. means he wasn’t as detached from the relationship as he is trying to make out…. he may have declined her attempts to get him back but in all honesty it’s not as easy to walk away from a tiny new born baby so she’s got every chance to win him over…. probably not for long… the cracks will reappear…. they always do.

But in my opinion this is leading to heartache… and in six short weeks you haven’t fallen in love with him… you’ve fallen in love with the idea of being in love.

I can’t say that I have ever been through what you have; but I do know that couples bond after the birth of a baby.

I also know that the stress of having a child can ruin some relationships.

If he and his ex were apart for four years, and he came home and realized it wouldn’t work, I would say that it probably won’t work, unless he and she both give 110% of themselves to make a family for the baby

You need to find something to keep yourself occupied for a while so that you don’t obsess so much and let him bask in his baby girl.

I have agree I have been through the exactly the same thing about boys and **** like that and yes it is hard to walk away from it