Love help: Friends with benefits?

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Friends with benefits?

?!
What the heck. A load of rubbish if you ask me.
People just get hurt. You can’t be that close to somebody and not feel anything.
It happens so much at work, and it is so hard when your not somebody like that…
Everybody ‘knows’ each other, I am friends with everybody, I muck around, joke around…but innocently- but I feel so isolated because I’m not sleeping with anyone……Which is completely stupid, you are there to work right??!

Far out, I am confused. Life confuses me, people confuse me !
It seems to me that everything in life is about sex.
Is this right?
You go to school, and as soon as you are legal - or before, who really cares…you have sex. You sleep with anyone you want, and don’t feel anything for it.
You work, and at work you think about sex with all the people at work?

Its so hard for somebody who is going to wait till marriage to fit in, and not get left behind…but then, how do you meet somebody when everybody you meet seems to have the same perspective on life?

And just because you’re single, means people assume your desperate.
Are you kidding me?

I am so sorry…I’m ranting.
Opinions/advice on anything would be much appreciated….I am so lost in this world, I feel so out of touch - but I’m only 20.
I don’t know why I have no desire to be like everybody else, just because everybody else does it this way - why should I??
I love everybody I am around, but I just sometimes do not understand them.

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Cell 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (2 hours, 44 minutes after post)

I waited until I was married. So did my hubby.

Maybe you just have a bad work environment? I don’t think every work place is like that.

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adamo 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (5 hours, 1 minute after post)

You need to figure out if the problem is that you’re not happy, or you’re not happy with how other people see you. You said “And just because you’re single, means people assume your desperate.” Well, if you’re not desperate, is the problem that you don’t want people thinking this about you? Because it sounds like you’re not really desperate. If the problem is how your workmates perceive you, then you need to realize that you can never please everybody. If you are happy with your choices, then be secure in that. Many people have different attitudes towards sex. To some people it’s serious, emotional and intimate. To other people it’s casual recreation. Be proud of your choices and don’t worry about what other people think. There are plenty of other people who think like you, trust me.

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courtybubble 176 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (17 hours, 44 minutes after post)

the fact is, some people can have a friends with benefits type relationship and and make it work perfectly well.
some cant.
you have a pretty pessimistic view of sex however, not everyone just goes out and boinks anything and everything.

but sex in the workplace is a biggggggggg no no, dont ever screw the crew :S
that is definitely something that never ends happily.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (22 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Yeah, thanks guys…
I don’t mean to be pessimistic at all, I guess its just that is all I seem to be seeing and hearing at work these days - I wasn’t aware of it until not so long ago. But maybe it is just the environment…..think I need a change =)
I just get over hearing how the new 15 year old chick has slept with 4 of the guys from work already and things like that. Confuses the heck out of me! I just don’t understand how anyone could want to be like that, and be happy…but thats just me, she seems a nice person. I think I’m going to choose to remain oblivious from now on !

I’m not desperate at all, in fact I’m rather happy with life at the moment.
Nobody, at least the people I work with, seem to understand that? They don’t understand how I don’t sleep around yet still manage to have fun.

Weird huh?!
Oh well, adamo’s right - can’t please everybody.
=)

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courtybubble 176 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (23 hours, 10 minutes after post)

any 15 year old girl who goes out and sleeps with that many guys is most definitely not happy.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (23 hours, 20 minutes after post)

oooh dear, i’ve heard stories about her a few years ago - it is so scary.
I’m 20, and I’ve only sorta been close with one guy, but not even close, close…Shes 15 and has already had so much experience?! Theres alot of girls like that. I just wonder what they are going to be like in a few years. Burnt out - a mess, its sad. But they don’t seem to care, they are quite happy making everybody love them.
But the guys don’t seem to care either, which is what confuses me?
And then they think that everybody should be that easy or something…
I know all guys aren’t like this - just wish I could find some nice ones =)

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courtybubble 176 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (1 day, 19 hours after post)

its not *experience* she has, its a deepseated need for love and acceptance.
classic teenage girl whos dad hasnt been around behaviour.
she is definitely not happy, but shes looking to be. just in the wrong way.

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