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I am a single mom of two teenagers.

I had done so good after my divorce getting my life on track and buying a house, I was living the American dream. Flashforward to ten years and now I find myself without a job for almost two years. Unemployment has completely ran out and my ex-husband is now paying child support supporadicaly. I need help paying bills because every place that could help here has been hit hard and mpw they are running out of money! I do feel fortunate because I have a house and a car but because of those reasons I can not get help with food stamps or other assistance because it means my assets are valued at too much. I also tried to get help through the housing stimulus that was going on and believe it or not I did not qualify because and this was their words “I bought a house I could afford and I was too responsible”, I didn’t know that was a bad thing but I guess it was! I just need someone to let me know if there is somewhere I can get help or if any one is willing to help that would be great as well. I continue to look for work as does my 16 yr. old son, who is eating everything and I am not sure how long he will have everything to eat. PLEASE-I am so desperate and feel like a failure in my children’s eyes. They never complain but I feel that way anyway. Thanks for listening!

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steff offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 236 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (4 minutes after post)

maybe it’s time to move to a city with more jobs

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wayjamnicjo offline Verified User (3 weeks, 4 days) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (19 hours, 3 minutes after post)

I really wish it were that easy. My parents are here and they help me when they can and they are my biggest support system. They have even given me the place to set up my salon but I just can’t seem to get the funding to get it started. I just don’t like feeling like a failure and my parents tell me that they are proud of what I have accomplished. I just keep having faith that the Lord has something for me but I know it will be when he says! Thanks for the reply!

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Saskatoon, SK, CA | 2 weeks, 3 days ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

I know a bit how you feel. Last May I lost my job of 28 years, and was out of work for over four months. But it wasn’t the lack of income that got to me, but rather a lack of reason to get up in the morning. Work defines us, and you need to find some. I got out of my slump by following the Dr. Phil method for relationship training, and applied it to my job search.

1) Become pointed about where you look for a job, and don’t settle for less than the income you require.
2) Target only jobs that will stay with you, such that you can identify and become a part of the work, allowing that identity to be a part of who you are on and off the job.
3) Accept the first job that meets your criteria.

Also, plan your job hunt, and don’t give up.
I did find a job in retail marketing, as a sales associate, because I targeted only that facet of the employment industry until I was hired.
Think about getting a job as if your making a friend, you can after all choose your friends. In our tight job climate only the best of attitudes gets the gumbo girl, so buck it up and start searching. Decide what you want and go get it.

Once we put our minds to it both my wife and I got nearly fulltime jobs, now we’re making more money than we ever did on my union job. Believe in yourself even when no one else does, They don’t have to go to work - you do.

Confidence, fortitude, Happiness and peace need to become a mainstay of your new attitude. No one likes a miserable person at work - especially the boss at the job interview.

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