girlfriend help: Im having a very hard time letting go of my ex girlfriend, or whatever she was.

wadizell8

Im having a very hard time letting go of my ex girlfriend, or whatever she was.

We dated for like a month and a half. Shes very fun and beautiful and it’s hard to let her go. She and I are friends now, but shes been bouncing around from new bf to new bf right in front of me thinking I’m fine with her making out with a new guy when I’m not. I’m going to tell her, but I don’t know how to break it to her without making her angry or losing her. Shes a good person at heart and someone I don’t want to lose in my life. help is appreciated.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (6 minutes after post)

You kind of already have lost her so it doesn’t seem like you have a lot to loose by being open with her.
Are you sure you want to try to get this girl back? She is openly flaunting her new guy’s in front of you, seems to me that she is not as bothered about this relationship as you are.
It may be easier for you to find someone new & try to forget about her.
If you are determined to tell her, just tell her like it is, be open & honest.

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neily4 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (8 minutes after post)

It can be tough staying friends with an ex when you still have feelings for them. It might be an idea to break all contact with her and just get on with your life and move forwards. If you stay friends with her you may find it difficult to meet and date someone new. Just my 2 cents worth.

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agaperoot 321 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (14 minutes after post)

neily4 wrote:
It can be tough staying friends with an ex when you still have feelings for them. It might be an idea to break all contact with her and just get on with your life and move forwards. If you stay friends with her you may find it difficult to meet and date someone new. Just my 2 cents worth.

I agree with neily you should try to move on and staying friends is costing you the ability to move on, and just watching her with other guys is like swallowing poison.

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (35 minutes after post)

Yeah, move on. Why would you want to be around someone who would hurt you like that?

Just find someone else and quit hanging around this girl.

If you are hanging around here hoping that she comes back to you, she might come back to you once she has a bun in the oven and no baker to take responsibility for it. You will become an easy mark for her.

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

If you don’t want to lose her as a friend, then why focus on her behaviour when the real problem is your own anxiety?

When she dates other guys you are reminded of what didn’t work out between you and you get anxious. You have decided that the way to stop that anxiety is to (a) try to control her behaviour; or (b) withdrawing from the friendship.

Neither option is necessary if you simply own your own anxiety for what it is. Anxiety is simply a sensation you feel inside when you confront an uncomfortable/new situation. You will do each other a lot of good by simply accepting your feelings as anxiety rather than trying to control/avoid her continuing to date.

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (9 hours, 1 minute after post)

well she never really hurt me that bad come to think about it. I mean I cried and ****, but Im kinda sensitive anyways, but i get over stuff like that.

well shes an Aries and I’m an Aquarius just for the sake of argument. I know that even though the zodiac is not the end all truth about a person or a relationship (people should never go by it 100% and if they do they’re bias) it did provide some solid ideas as to why she is the way she is.

She’s very insecure with herself and seems as though she latches on to someone to make her feel whole, but, as previously explained, she falls in and out of love fast and always finds someone else. She is extremely naive as to the consequences of her actions. She acts selfish. She acts careless to

She claims to want love more than anything…I just feel like telling her that if she keeps doing what shes doing, she’ll be looking forever.

I am very understanding of all of this and still love her in spite of it all. And she and I see eye-to-eye on a lot of things and are kinda ‘in tune’ with each other (we understand each other). I’m not the jealous type, I just can’t help but feel strange and uncomfortable around her doing things like making out with guys and parading her bf in front of me.

Am I too forgiving/soft/much of a push over?

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (9 hours, 5 minutes after post)

meant to add, from my understanding Aquarius and Aries get along very well and are a good match for each other(still this is speculation, not fact).

linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 4 days ago (18 hours after post)

Yo, dude

Your followup post was just a long list of problems about her.

It’s not about her. She’s living her life for better or worse. The issue is you, friend, and how you are handling your discomfort with this situation. You must focus on your own future instead of obsessing with the past and with this girl.

You are taking what she does PERSONALLY… labelling it “parading her bf in front of me”. You are making her behaviour about you. This is typical for men but if you read “When good men behave badly” by David Wexler you learn to keep telling yourself “it’s not about me” and that everyone acts because of their OWN hopes and fears.

It is not about you. Keep reminding yourself that. Focus on improving your own live and moving ahead. Then this girl just becomes a friend just like you wanted.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 weeks, 4 days ago (19 hours, 52 minutes after post)

It seems that she does not want a relationship, she goes from one guy to the next easily, she does not have an emotional attatchment to you or any of the other guy’s, you can not change that, if this is the way she wants to be, so be it, just don’t put yourself in line to get hurt by her, i know it’s hard but maybe it is time for you to accept you were just one guy in a long list & move on to a girl that wants a relationship with you.

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