Firstly, I’d like to thank everyone who takes the time to read this.

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Firstly, I’d like to thank everyone who takes the time to read this.

I’m new here and not totally up to date on the whole internet thing, so forgive any errors. I guess I’ll just jump right in and get to the point.

I’ve spent 8 years in higher education, namely University, and due to screwing around for the majority of that with drink and the social side of student life, came out with a £20,000 debt and a 3rd. Which to those unfamiliar with the UK education system, is essentially the lowest mark you can get without failing. If I’m being brutally honest, I’ve been exceptionally flakey as an individual all throughout my early twenties, jumping from one impulse to the next, normally off my head on drink or some other substance. Due to my being a total waster, I was forced to take an exceptionally low paid job and move back in with my folks at the ripe old age of 27. I’m not a textbook case of a winner, as we can all agree.

However, I’ve kicked the drink and other non wholesome activities into touch and whilst the work is no where near enough to get my own place, car or even holiday, it does pay my bills, albeit I have to make the cash stretch. Whilst I’ve been worked like a dog in my workplace, I have been considering my future and am drawn to Archaeology. This would mean however, returning to University, racking up another £12,000 in debt (if I can get the funding) and stayiny with my parents for another 3 years. A prospect that doesn’t really fill me with joy in all honesty. I love my parents, but sometimes feel I’m suffocating in that love.

I don’t really know why I’m writing this here. Perhaps I’m hoping that someone will wave a magic wand and make it all work out, but I’d settle for some unbiased advice. Again thanks for reading folks. Even writing this all down seems to have helped a little

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (10 minutes after post)

What did you study first time round? Can’t you make a go with that?
Sorry but we don’t have the magic wand, although i bet we all wish we did.
I would try to pay off my debt’s before going back to uni if i were you, or lowering them at least.
Yes it does suck to move back in with the parents at your age but needs must, you should think yourself lucky they were there for you to fall back on.
Maybe you still have some growing up to do, you may be best to stay in your dead end job for a while, while you grow up & figure out exactly what you want & how you are going to get it, you can’t really aford another screw up, you need to be dedicated this time.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (13 minutes after post)

I sorta have/had the same problem. I just graduated form college and have over $75,000 in debt… But even with my degree the economy didn’t leave me with a high paying job. It’s just enough to get by. I’m living with my parents. And yes, I understand your pain with family. Since my I graduated, I decided to go to another school online. So I’m stuck at home with them 24/7.
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I got some good advice once. Education is something that should come first because afterward the better jobs will come. If you can do the education, I would do it. I know that’s another 3 years of staying with your family, but if you don’t do it… where do you picture yourself 5 years down the road?
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3 weeks, 4 days ago (18 minutes after post)

To be perfectly honest, archaeology seems to be just another impulse of yours. You need to get your head on straight and realize what you are and are not capable of achieving. Get a reasonable plan together that plays to your strengths and doesn’t involve going into more debt.

linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (47 minutes after post)

Hi there.

Do NOT go back to school. Why? Because school for you is just about hiding from anxiety. You spent all your school time medicating yourself with alcohol and goofing off because studying made you too anxious.

Quite frankly, if you find something that uses your natural talents, you will move heaven and earth to make it work. For you, that is NOT school right now.

Read “What color is your parachute?” by Richard Bolles. It gives a process to finding what you should be doing with your life.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (9 hours, 31 minutes after post)

you know, archeology is not all jurassic park and indiana jones.
it takes a heck of a lot of rote learning, and to be any good at it at all, you will need to be dedicated to your study, which you do not seem to be.
have you thought about working overseas?
you have a degree already, if you take a short TEFL course you can teach english in asian countries and make a truckload of money.
otherwise, look for work in the field you are already qualified in. seems a hell of an expensive waste to not even use, and something about it must have drawn you to want to study it.

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