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what do you mean, exactly??

i find that unconditional love is not only something that develops with, lets say, a father to daughter, etc.

love can grow to become unconditional with anyone..if its meant to be. I have a couple close friends whom i love that way.
and i think that any true, lasting love, must be unconditional.
i mean, say it the other way, conditional love, it sounds awful..

People who know how to love other people unconditionally give that love without expecting anything in return.

very true littlenick.

by the way, you are one of my most favorite people on here lol

I would have to question the concept of unconditional love in a romantic relationship. A partnership requires that each partner delivers their part of the relationship. If they cease to deliver their part, the relationship breaks down and the partners separate. So that love IS conditional.

If you are talking about simply “loving” a girl into being attracted to you, then you are essentially buying affection with favours, gifts, etc. and that is not the way that creates romantic attraction. Instead it encourages dependence and feelings of sisterly affection… the kind of affection that comes with “unconditional” familial love.

Cannonball Girl wrote:
very true littlenick.

by the way, you are one of my most favorite people on here lol

:)

Burnside boy wrote:
I romanticly love a girl shes my everything. doesn’t matter if she feels the same way or not or weather she feels as strongly as i do,

Unconditional it is.

but i do desire it to be mutual.

but forever unconditional.

Like I said, unconditional love is for families. If you use your approach, you are likely to become a “nice guy” who has lots of girls for friends, girls he helps out all the time, girls who date OTHER GUYS.

If you focus everything on this one person, you are making that person your SOLE SOURCE of self esteem and nurturing. That will drain that person and make them uncomfortable. Plus they will feel like your mother or sister.

Romantic love IS conditional. It is a partnership of choice. And when you are starting the dating process, you have dole it out a bit at a time to see what the other person will do. As the relationship progresses, there is nothing wrong with giving more but making love unconditional is a serious mistake… because that means you are not a man but a child dependent on a mother or a father nurturing a daughter.

A real romantic relationship is one where the partners must both give to each other, or they break it off because it’s unhealthy and parasitical.