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Need advice on how to handle a situation with a girl I met.

I met a girl at the gym recently and because I am a shy person it was pretty hard. Although, I just walked up next to her and got on one of the machines, after a few minutes started to talk to her. We talked a for awhile and I really like her. A couple days later I saw her again and easily walked over and talked to her. How do I ask/find out if she has a boyfriend, and how do I go about getting her number without scaring her off?

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Fuzzy Pepper offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (4 minutes after post)

Just ask her

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Rassin offline Verified User (3 weeks, 3 days) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (6 minutes after post)

Is she shy as you are? As long as you don’t want to hurt her, go and say whatever goes in your mind!
If you are helpless, go and tell her that you are happy for meeting her and her company with you in that gym… (girls usually give that info (about if there is a bf already) by themselves.
And focus on smiling when you talk, don’t let your eyes look (like you are focusing or thinking about something).

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (7 minutes after post)

“Are you seeing someone?”

no –> “Let me buy you a coffee after your workout.”

yes –> “He’s a lucky guy” and wink. She may be lying and your confidence will just attract her more. When you walk away confidently she may rethink her answer.

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SensiblyCommon offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (18 minutes after post)

Watch these videos on YouTube, they will probably help your situation. You can call her your ‘pivot’.

www.youtube.com/thepickupchick

OR just go to YouTube.com and search ‘thepickupchick’.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

Ask her if shes doing anything this weekend and offer to take her out for some dinner or coffee. If she says she’s seeing someone just say he’s lucky and change the subject… Good luck

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