You stop all contact with them until your fully moved on, anything and everything that reminds you of them you get of it, go out and try dating.
kathrynkurs wrote:
You stop all contact with them until your fully moved on, anything and everything that reminds you of them you get of it, go out and try dating.
i dont thin cutting contact will help. it only confuses people and you will still think about them. plus, and i’m not trying to offend anyone, honest, but its really immature.
try seeing why you shouldnt go out with them, things that would cause problems in a hypothetical relationship, and why its best to stay friends. dont thin of them negetavely, but dont think of them as loveable. think reasonably, but biased towards why it would be a bad thing. for example, i once liked this guy wo was active, popular, smart, and really cute! but he had a gf and i realized that he was a little arrogent, and a bit of a drama-king. he’s the kind of guy that would fight for fear of hurting his face… even though he’s really nice, and an all round cool guy. just not really my type. thats just an example, and its the only method that works for me, but give it a go and i wish you luck.
Remember them at there worst!
I had to leave someone and I always thought about him laying on the couch being a big fat lazy butt cheater. It worked :)
Cutting someone off really does help you get over someone.
Trampy wrote:
Cutting someone off really does help you get over someone.
THANK YOU! See, if you around them it’s harder to let go of the feelings, it’s not immature it’s smart, it’s what you do after bad break ups to help you get over them and not have those lingering feelings every time you see them.
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Cutting someone off really does help you get over someone.
THANK YOU! See, if you around them it’s harder to let go of the feelings, it’s not immature it’s smart, it’s what you do after bad break ups to help you get over them and not have those lingering feelings every time you see them.
Though it is difficult not to relapseee.
Keeping busy and seeing other people is a good plan too.
Sadly I cant avoid him completely because we work together.Hes a bit of a man-whore&hardcore into drinking.Im not so we probably wouldnt work out as a couple anyway.I just cant stop thinking that maybe if i changed things would be different.
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
That is hard. But I think that your dodging a bullet, man whores and drinking are really not good for your heart no matter how sexy and wild he is.
It is better that you accept him for who he is and don’t try to change yourself for any guy, you will not be happy in the end.
You sound like a sweet person and I think you deserve someone else who would really love you for who you are.
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
You suuure do like agreeing with me. (:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
You suuure do like agreeing with me. (:
You have a good point or the same perspective =p
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
You suuure do like agreeing with me. (:
You have a good point or the same perspective =p
Maybe we’re just both geniuses
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
You suuure do like agreeing with me. (:
You have a good point or the same perspective =p
Maybe we’re just both geniuses
Lol I will agree with you on that…again =]
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
You suuure do like agreeing with me. (:
You have a good point or the same perspective =p
Maybe we’re just both geniuses
Lol I will agree with you on that…again =]
I agree with your agreeing with me (:
OMG! You guys are making me dizzy!
Spin around and around in order to counteract the dizzyness
;) Thanks love for the advice, you rock.
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
kathrynkurs wrote:
Trampy wrote:
Never change for someone else, it’s not worth it.
I agree, you change and you lose yourself completely ( I’ve done it once or twice sadly ). Well just think of the negative about him, do you really want to be with a guy that has been around the block a few times?
You suuure do like agreeing with me. (:
You have a good point or the same perspective =p
Maybe we’re just both geniuses
Lol I will agree with you on that…again =]
I agree with your agreeing with me (:
lol i guess i judged a little there, sorry guys. I guess i’d just rather stay friends with someone… but to each their own.
I do wanna stay friends with him i just need to make my heart stop skipping a beat everytime i see him. ya know what i mean?
Hey, yes I get it, he must be a bad boy, I still have memories of a guy I knew in high school who was so bad but so gorgeous and wild.We had fun dating but, it wasn’t meant to be and I moved on, but I still to this day remember him and wonder what happened. Sorry, I don’t think this is helping you. :)
SpazzySpizzy wrote:
I do wanna stay friends with him i just need to make my heart stop skipping a beat everytime i see him. ya know what i mean?
in that case i’d still say not cut off communication… that defeats the purpose of staying friends. :P
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