does anyone really like the veloptuous ladies? - Help.com

i think it depends how you carry yourself.
if youre self conscious about your weight and not confident, that will be evident and guys just dont like that.
ive seen plenty of heavier gals with guys that arent overweight so yea, i guess they do lol.

on the other hand, even if youre not uncomfortable with your weight, being overweight is a health hazard, and perhaps this is why a lot of guys dont go for teh curvies, they kinda see it as youre not looking after yourself.

Hi, my name is Ali. My girlfriend (yes I’m gay) likes me and I’m over weight (276 lbs). But she inspired me to be more healthy. I’m working out and eating better. I’ve lost 20 lbs… in 3 months… It’s not much… but I’m still going. I get so much energy by working out and eating right…
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there are people who don’t care about appearances. And she’s one of them. You need to find people who are like that. Care about what’s in your mind and soul… not about how much you weight.
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Your friend,
Ali

If you want to workout… I suggest getting the Wii and the Wii Active… It’s great! 20 mins of fun workout! :D

i’m overweight yet not enough to cause health problems(as of yet, not planning to let that happen) and my bf is one of the thin guys. my question was more about what others find attractive about fat women(or men i guess) as opposed to the regular or fun sized. i’m fat and don’t like fat men, again ’cause the fat itself just gets in the way…but that’s just me.

I used to be really fat, but I was totally okay with myself. Then I took up ballroom dancing and lost a lot of weight, and now I feel amazing! I feel twice as beautiful and a million times more energetic! That’s why men like fit looking women - they know that fit women have waaaaaaaay more energy to spend in the bedroom!

i honestly think it comes down to some guys just find it attractive. just like some guys like feet and others like eyes.

Yeah quite alot of men actually find big women a turn on but then I think that is a fetish thing and they have to be HUGE..

I think alot of being attractive is down to confidence and how you like yourself, if your happy in your own skin then it doesn’t matter what other people think.

No, veloptuous isn’t for me personaly. You say you are but dont like it in others. Yet you like yourself.
Something quite illogical about that sort of thought. Makes it look like you are completely self centered, almost to the point of selfishness.
My own thoughts are that extreme fat and obessety are very ugly. Means that you have let yourself become disrepectful of your own body, when you dont respect your self. Does it spill over to not respecting others.
Try to slim a lot if you are very fat, do it slowly though. Exercise is a must as well as sorting out your diet.

thep wrote:
No, veloptuous isn’t for me personaly. You say you are but dont like it in others. Yet you like yourself.
Something quite illogical about that sort of thought. Makes it look like you are completely self centered, almost to the point of selfishness.
My own thoughts are that extreme fat and obessety are very ugly. Means that you have let yourself become disrepectful of your own body, when you dont respect your self. Does it spill over to not respecting others.
Try to slim a lot if you are very fat, do it slowly though. Exercise is a must as well as sorting out your diet.

Life’s too short to worry about ’slimming down’. How could my weight possibly mean I’m not respecting others? Seriously, if you don’t like looking at fat people simply turn away. Don’t judge. I respect myself and I like to eat whatever I want. Hey, why not?

Did you know it’s more healthy to be 50% overweight than 10% underweight? Well now you do.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/afp/…

i think he more means like what else in your life are you not respecting.
it is still unhealthy to be overweight, especially VERY overweight

When I met my wife, about twelve years ago she was probably about middling, in weight terms. I fell in love with her, we got married (obviously) and since then her weight has gone up and down (in a normal sort of way) - sometimes quite skinny and other times a bit plump. In all that time I’ve never fallen out of love with her because of her weight.

So why is this, based on the proposition that overweight people are somehow un- (or maybe less) loveable? The reason is because regardless of the external appearance it’s the same person inside and that is, ultimately, what we fall in love with. If, for example, I lost a leg - I wouldn’t expect my wife to fall out of love with me because my external appearance (and ironically my weight) had suddenly changed.

Personally, I find that you love people because of who they are, not what they look like.

Oh and, btw - Marilyon Monroe, widely regarded as a very sexy lady, was rather plump and curvy. Curves win every time. :)

thep wrote:
No, veloptuous isn’t for me personaly. You say you are but dont like it in others. Yet you like yourself.
Something quite illogical about that sort of thought. Makes it look like you are completely self centered, almost to the point of selfishness.

i guess you can see it that way, but i don’t hate fat ppl, i just don’t date fat men because as i said, the fat gets in the way since i already have some extra piled on. i’m not really judging or saying no one but me should be fat!! i just preffer not to do date fat ppl.

Cell wrote:

I respect myself and I like to eat whatever I want. Hey, why not?

Did you know it’s more healthy to be 50% overweight than 10% underweight? Well now you do.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/afp/…

i second this!! ’cause i like to eat what i want too, and again i haven’t developed any problems from being overweight and i don’t plan to. it’s not like i eat mcd’s at every meal or anything, and i do know what a ‘healthy’ diet should consist of. i find the underweight thing kind’a interesting, ’cause the bf started off that way but is slowly gaining.

but its not really about the ramifications for your health NOW, its about your future health.

Anonymous wrote:

i haven’t developed any problems from being overweight and i don’t plan to.

by ‘i don’t plan to’ i mean i will loose weight and or do what i need to do to avoid future problems.

idk i think they should just issue us with a pill we take every day that has all the nutrients in it we need, make life a hell of a lot easier.

I find its more the person and the features which makes someone attractive.
I’ve been attracted to over weight ladies and slim fit ladies it all depends on what a persons taste is. A lot of over weight ladies have some nice features such a eyes & smile etc.

If weight is effecting your health start to walk 30mins a day (I recommend this to everyone.)

I think it all comes down to why you are overweight and how overweight you are. It’s not true that it’s healthier to be 50% overweight than 10% underweight - I don’t know where those figures came from but there is simply no way to verify that sort of data. It’s speculation at best.

Obviously if you come on a help website with any questions at all about your weight then it must be creating some sort of an issue for you. We keep using ‘overweight’ like it has some sort of definitive meaning, but in fact if you are really interested in your health then you should see a doctor and get his/her help to determine what your ideal body is for your age/height/bone structure to maximise your life expectancy.

The poster anonymous.

You came here asking a question, that means that everyones oppinion is valid on your post.
My oppinions and tastes are above, if anyone else on here doesn’t like what I said, that is just to bad.
You and another say I am judging you. I see it as giving my oppinions.
I find it interesting you and the other person find it neccessary to defend your being fat or overweight, that would denote you both have bigger problems with this issue than you are willing to admit.
Some one else states that a lot of fat people still have some beauty about them, their smile etc.
I still stick to what I said above. Extremes of fat and obessety ARE TO ME VERY UGLY.
As I say above, this is how I feel about it, I have no interest in trying in any way to influence others to see things my way.
Again I say that if you are that fat that it bothers you, then you cant respect your body, looking after it is the way to respect it and your well being.

One other thing.

You say this above, “i second this!! ’cause i like to eat what i want too, and again i haven’t developed any problems from being overweight and i don’t plan to. it’s not like i eat mcd’s at every meal or anything, and i do know what a ‘healthy’ diet should consist of. i find the underweight thing kind’a interesting, ’cause the bf started off that way but is slowly gaining.”

This might be judging to you and others, to me it is a fact. from the above quote, you are forcing your own weaknesses on to your boyfriend.

no one can make someone else eat, so there is no forcing. if you think fat ppl are ugly that’s you, as i said i don’t think that, i just don’t like to date them. i don’t think you’re judging me, but maybe you’re judging fat ppl in general, idk. i don’t have a reason nor need a reason for being fat, other than i like to eat what i like. i’m not trying to influence you in anyway either, this is just how i see it. as stated above i was looking for what others find attractive about the overweight gals(or guys), nothing more. no need to go into anything else.

rainefinla wrote:
I think it all comes down to why you are overweight and how overweight you are. It’s not true that it’s healthier to be 50% overweight than 10% underweight - I don’t know where those figures came from but there is simply no way to verify that sort of data. It’s speculation at best.

did you look at the link they provided?

the link is applicable to japanese men and women only, whom we all know have quite different bodily shapes and mechanisms of disease than western folk, women in particular.

Again, I think you answer your own question, This taken from your latest answer above. “if you think fat ppl are ugly that’s you, as i said i don’t think that, i just don’t like to date them.”
Think why you dont like to date them, then think about why others wouldn’t like to date them either.

Also what happens to your boyfriend, when you have got him to be fat as well. Will you want to stop dating him?

what question? and if that comes to be, we’ll see how it goes.

As you state above, your question is “as stated above i was looking for what others find attractive about the overweight gals(or guys), nothing more.

In the original post, You ask and also state :-
“does anyone really like the veloptuous ladies?
as in fat, overweight and heavy? i’m a girl and i’m overweight myself, yet i don’t see how others find it attractive-my bf included. i’ve been w/ fat men before, from ‘chubby’(that’s still fat) to obesse, and it just gets in the way since i’m heavy myself. i don’t like it, yet i like myself. why would others, though?”

So your post starts with a specific question and ends with another question in regards to your entire post.

Therefore you should expect to get answers to your entire post or statements.
When you reply to an answer given to you, you should also be prepared to get responses to them as well.

It would look like you dont like some of what I have said above. So to give you the same answers as above but in a different way, here goes.
Fat, etremely fat and obesse is not pretty or good looking. It is uggly to look at. from some of your own replies, you dont like it yourself in a boyfriend. How can you expect it to acceptable to others?
If you want to eat food that makes you fat, that is up to you. If you dont care how it makes you look, that is up to you.
You could think of eating combined with exercising, the exercises will help you to keep a lot of the weight off.
Now it leaves me to say that this is how I see it, I dont hate or dislike people that are fat, thin or somewhere inbetween.
So I hope that this is enough for you. I have tried to give my view, if you cant accept it or dont like it, it is still my personal view.
I have no intention of changing anything I say above, it still, all of it, applies.