guy friend help: I’ve had this guy friend for 4 years now, we have both been in separate relationships but now he is single and i am still with my boyfriend. - Help.com

how do you feel about this guy, i know youve been friends with him for 4 yrs
but how do you really feel about this guy?

keep telling him how nice it is to have a friend like him. emphasize FRIEND as many times as possible, in as many ways as possible. and talk about your bf and how much you like him, etc. bring him around as a 3rd wheel and act as cheese as you can. if he’s real hard-headed and still doesn’t get it, tell him upfront.

he has been a great friend. We have been in university together for 4 years, in a small class of 25 people. We hang out outside of school as well. we have been together a lot. I know him very well and he knows me very well. I just have to look at him a certain way and he knows exactly what I am feeling. I don’t want to loose him as a friend, but i am with another guy and we have been together for 5 years. I don’t want anything to change. This friend has never hit on me before but he has always been dating someone. I hope he is just going through a phase after his break up. I want to be there for him to help him through it but i also don’t want to give him the wrong impression. ?I’m confused?

Anonymous wrote:
keep telling him how nice it is to have a friend like him. emphasize FRIEND as many times as possible, in as many ways as possible. and talk about your bf and how much you like him, etc.

you find this confusing? tell him you’d like to marry the guy, if you already have plans for that even better.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
keep telling him how nice it is to have a friend like him. emphasize FRIEND as many times as possible, in as many ways as possible. and talk about your bf and how much you like him, etc.

you find this confusing? tell him you’d like to marry the guy, if you already have plans for that even better.

I am just confused over the situation. I don’t want anyone to get hurt

then tell him you just WANT him as a friend&nothing more
hes like a brother to you
you cant see him in any other way

if your not physically attracted to him
he needs to be put straight

sorry but your going to have to be cruel to be kind :/

is your friend ok in himself at the moment
usually we develop feelings for our friends
when things are not going right in our lives

just listen to your heart and try to think really hard if he cares for you and wants you to then choose who you have more feelings for

he is going through a break up. they were together for almost 4 years. I know he needs a friend right now but i am not sure if it should be me

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I am just confused over the situation. I don’t want anyone to get hurt

making sure he knows you’re with your bf and how good a friend he is shouldn’t hurt him.

do you know why they broke up

i guess i will just have to get the courage to go over and talk woth him today about all of this. wish me luck…

good luck and dont be scared

ya, she moved away o continue with schooling (over 4 hours away. She thought it was to difficult to have a long distance relationship with him. She broke it off with him after 2 months of being apart.

Anonymous wrote:
he is going through a break up. they were together for almost 4 years. I know he needs a friend right now but i am not sure if it should be me

just as i thought :/
all his attention will go on you, as youve been the only person there for him

your his best mate, just like his gf sadly :/

basically hes on the rebound, you need to tell him hes not thinking straight at the moment
hes on a downward spiral&as much as you love him as a friend
your sorry but you wont put up with his advances anymore

your already in a relationship with your bf&if he thought anything about you, he wouldnt want to jepardise that in any way :)

thanks everyone for you help and suggestions. its just good talk about things to people who don’t know you so you get honest opinions about the situation. thanks again