I am not a dude.
And nothings happened. Thats whats wrong. Nothing ever happens. And Ive tried making stuff happen and it still doesnt.
You do matter, everyone matters and someone somewhere is always listening.
❀❁✿❁❀ wrote:
Wrong.
how do you know for sure?
❀❁✿❁❀ wrote:
I am not a dude.
And nothings happened. Thats whats wrong. Nothing ever happens. And Ive tried making stuff happen and it still doesnt.
dude is an informal word for person.
Why do you feel like people treat you this way.
Because people have told me I matter and that they care and still nothings changed. People say my opinions matter but once I tell them my opinions they get confused or annoyed and just get someone else to deal with me instead of finishing what they started themselves and I hate that.
Maybe it’s the way you come across to people…are you a little too forceful with your opinions?
steff wrote:
❀❁✿❁❀ wrote:
I am not a dude.
And nothings happened. Thats whats wrong. Nothing ever happens. And Ive tried making stuff happen and it still doesnt.
dude is an informal word for person.
Why do you feel like people treat you this way.
Dude can also be slang for something else offensive and I do not like it.
I dont feel like they do, I know they do. Its hard to explain.
You are confused and lil frus…….
You have problem related to your social skills.
you have ego as well
And ego is the enemy of a person himself.
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Dude.
If you keep taking life so seriously and focusing on every bloody little thing how the heck will ya enjoy it?
It’ll just really suck a lot.
what else does dude mean?
Ok…
What exactly do you want from life?
What goals do you have?
steff wrote:
Maybe it’s the way you come across to people…are you a little too forceful with your opinions?
I dont think so. I offer them as suggestions instead of saying “Do this” like the other kids do. People dont really get to know me as well as they should do. They see me in a bad situation that Im not handling very well and thats how they always see me. They just mark me as “difficult” and leave it at that, when thats not what I am.
geet_cute wrote:
You are confused and lil frus…….
You have problem related to your social skills.
you have ego as well
And ego is the enemy of a person himself.
Thats true. I do have problems with social stuff.
Anonymous wrote:
Dude.
If you keep taking life so seriously and focusing on every bloody little thing how the heck will ya enjoy it?
It’ll just really suck a lot.
I have to take something seriously. The stuff I wrote about is the stuff that is making me unhappy.
~LazyDaze~ wrote:
Ok…
What exactly do you want from life?
What goals do you have?
I want to be happy.
You say that you want to be happy, but you can’t rely solely on other people to make you happy. I think you’re focusing too much on that.
See you dont get it either.
I dont rely solely on others to make me happy but I do need some help from others to make me happy. I cant make myself happy and Ive tried.
Be Confident about urself
Make your social skills powerful
Be joyous and jolly
And don’t think too much about anything just do whatever you want don’t think about the people.What they will say.
It’s true that you need to be happy with who you are without other people. Isn’t there anyone (best friend or sibling) who appreciates you?
geet_cute wrote:
Be Confident about urself
Make your social skills powerful
Be joyous and jolly
And don’t think too much about anything just do whatever you want don’t think about the people.What they will say.
I cant just magic up some confidence just like that, much as Id love to.
As for social skills, I dont think I have any. I cant even talk to anyone in my classes.
And I cant do what I want. But Id like that too.
steff wrote:
It’s true that you need to be happy with who you are without other people. Isn’t there anyone (best friend or sibling) who appreciates you?
My sister only likes me because Im capable of riding to the shop on my bike to get her chocolate and I dont like being liked just for that.
Other “friends” are only hanging around with me because theyre hoping Ill lend them money that they never pay back.
get use to it thats how life is…. its all in how u take it and learn and grow.. if people produce your pain look at in laugh cuz u better than that and someday they be look up at you!!! KARMAS A *****
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based from all your responses here, i think you’re not as open-minded as you think you are. you think people don’t understand you. you think people “don’t get it” when their opinions/suggestions differ from yours (particularly your reply to Steff). but is it possible that they DO get you but you just refuse to acknowledge them because their views differ from yours? as you said, you have a social problem. it’s very possible that you simply have a communication problem.
it’s true that we know who we are most (ideally). we know our values. we know who we are when the door is closed. but the way people treat us is the gauge of how well our awareness is. you say EVERYBODY treats you this certain way. so you think EVERYBODY is wrong about their ‘perception’ of you and you’re correct? do you think that maybe, just MAYBE there is something off with the way you come across or your present your ideas that make people behave this way around you? :)
just an honest opinion. but maybe i just “don’t get it”.
best of luck!
No. I know that people do not understand me. When I try to explain it, I just explain it ni the simplest way I know and they decide Im too different.
And I know that people do not “get me”. I understand people have different views, and hell, if I had a problem with that Itd worry me. Its just that I know how I feel and others dont.
And just like most others, youve given up on me.
Hm. Maybe. Or maybe theyre just ignoring me.
I think maybe we were trying to give nice advice but you were just writing it off.
Seemed to me like some were just being mean
Im not trying to make things difficult. Im trying to tell people how I feel and then people are telling me thats not how I feel.
I do take advice when it makes sense to me, I do.
Ive had a pretty crap day today with people upsetting me and turning against me and yelling at me when I choose not to answer their snide comments.
But why do people yell at you? Can you give us an example?
❀❁✿❁❀ wrote:
And just like most others, youve given up on me.
And you know what…I see you haven’t helped anyone else on this site. Maybe you should give it a try.
Ive helped loads of people. Since writing this I havent come across anything I can give advice on.
Today a girl asked me a very personal question relating to body image, with her friends laughing at me. Instead of answering like I have done in the past (leading to more humiliation) I walked away like my friend told me to. This makes them yell at me.
Before when I have answered I have been made even more upset, or Ive lost my temper and made it even worse for myself.
I just meant since yesterday when you wrote this…that you’re feeling sorry for yourself, but if you helped other people it would let you feel helpful/useful and like a good friend.
OK, well you’re just dealing with bullies, not real people! Avoid them!
And don’t lose your temper. You are who you want to be, be proud of that and don’t get upset because other people don’t get it.
steff wrote:
I think maybe we were trying to give nice advice but you were just writing it off.
i kinda agree with you on this one. :)
seriously, original poster (sorry i can’t type your username lolz).
i didn’t reply instantly and you said i had given up on you. if it makes you feel better since you were anticipating a reply and decided instead to think i gave up - I HAD TO WORK.
someone said that maybe ‘they’ are asleep but you’d rather think they’re ‘ignoring’ you. or they were being mean. me included? maybe.
there is something wrong that i see with this picture. all of the advice here you can’t seem to accept.
maybe it’s pride? maybe it’s self pity that has become a form of indulgence and self-entitlement?
we’re not telling you what you feel or what you do not feel. we (or at least i) are seriously giving you an observation about you. an observation that we believe can help you in your problem.
you ‘know’ that people don’t understand you. you ‘know’ that people don’t get you. honestly, sometimes we people don’t. actually, that is often the case. it’s not unique to you. it’s in all of us. that’s why i suggest keeping an open mind. because what you ‘know’ may not necessarily be the truth.
you say you don’t want to whine.. but that’s what you’ve done. “and just like most others, you’ve given up on me”. that’s whining.
anyway, this may be my last reply here. it’s not about GIVING UP. but it seems you won’t listen to what i have to say no matter what. because it’s against what you ‘know’. that is perfectly fine with me. i hope though you listen to others.
seriously, i hope you get a breakthrough so you won’t feel ’sick’ anymore (as in your original post).
best of luck!:)
I dont have anything against anyone here. Its just me feeling crap. I have bad days and good days.
On good days I will smile and laugh and I wont stop.
On bad days I will feel miserable and feel like everyone is against me simply because its easier to believe that people dont want to have anything to do with me.
Today was supposed to be a good day because its Wednesday, and it was for a few minutes but then someone wrecked it and I have to wait until Friday but I think it will get wrecked again and I know that probably doesnt make much sense but youd think it was weird if I told you because most people think its weird.
I wasnt meaning to whine when I wrote this last night, I didnt feel as bad as I do now.
Calm down buddy take it easy do what you like life is good have fun make the most of your life friends are fun just do it BK have it your way I’m lovin’ it you can do it we can help I can’t believe thats not butter wheres the beef laugh out loud be right back home run touchdown what the heck be yourself beam me up scotty Abraham Lincoln once said we will attack you with the north.
So don’t worry it should all come out fine.
Lol
Thanks for cheering me up
(Spoken in a deep throaty batman kind of voice)
Thank you. But now I have to go because, I must be out there in the night, (dramatic pause) staying vigilant (another dramatic pause) wherever someone needs to be saved from gloom, I’m there, wherever there is sadness, depression or… more sadness, I’m there. But sometimes I’m not because I’m out in the night staying vigilant, watching, lurking, running, jumping, hurdling, sleeping… no I can’t sleep; you sleep, I’m awake. I don’t sleep, I don’t blink… am I a bird? No. I’m a bat. I am Batman. Or am I? Yes I am Batman.
I am sorry but join the club.
Central wrote:
(Spoken in a deep throaty batman kind of voice)
Thank you. But now I have to go because, I must be out there in the night, (dramatic pause) staying vigilant (another dramatic pause) wherever someone needs to be saved from gloom, I’m there, wherever there is sadness, depression or… more sadness, I’m there. But sometimes I’m not because I’m out in the night staying vigilant, watching, lurking, running, jumping, hurdling, sleeping… no I can’t sleep; you sleep, I’m awake. I don’t sleep, I don’t blink… am I a bird? No. I’m a bat. I am Batman. Or am I? Yes I am Batman.
Okay then…
welcome to life every where you look people always judging somebody not right but that is how it is.your life is what you make out of it believe in yourself and others will.their will always be one.life is short you have to reach out and grab it why you can.you can do it.all you can be is you!no more no less.good luck with life.we are all fighting for it.some more then others
Jew Jitsu wrote:
I am sorry but join the club.
Yeah, its ok. I feel a bit better now.
I like Central’s replies - they cheer me up.
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