How can i tell someone or ask :”Do you have anorexia or an eating disorder?

besserlover

How can i tell someone or ask :”Do you have anorexia or an eating disorder?

“without sounding rude?
There is a girl in my class that is so thin and always goes to the bathroom while in class after eating anything someone gives her, she has very brittle and shredding her that is thin and yellowish skin and wrinkle smile and she is younger than me and im 17 shes 14.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

take a look here, hopefully this will help you

http://www.mirror-mirror.org/applove.htm

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

Even if you found a way of telling her, she won’t believe you - that’s the nature of an anorexic/bolemic. Point it out to the teacher(s) and see what they think about her. If the teacher thinks she has a problem, they’ll bring it to the attention of the parents. If the girl has a problem, the chances are that the parents may already know.
There will be very little you can do to help her. Just be her friend.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (47 minutes after post)

i agree With allan_wilco

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (54 minutes after post)

swirly51 wrote:
i agree With allan_wilco

Thank you Swirly

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (8 hours, 37 minutes after post)

talk to her.
dont accuse her of it, or be forceful about it.
just talk to her. introduce yourself. get to know her. the background to an eating disorder is extreme unhappiness. try to get to know her and whats going on to make her so.

otherwise, talk to a teacher or adult you trust about it. someone at the school if you are at the same school, someone who will take action, like the school counselor.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 day, 13 hours after post)

allan_wilco wrote:
Even if you found a way of telling her, she won’t believe you - that’s the nature of an anorexic/bolemic. Point it out to the teacher(s) and see what they think about her. If the teacher thinks she has a problem, they’ll bring it to the attention of the parents. If the girl has a problem, the chances are that the parents may already know.
There will be very little you can do to help her. Just be her friend.

thank you!, but my problem is i was once anorexic but im recovered never fully but im 90% recovered, and i know what it’s like when someone calls you out about it.{not a good feeling} and i don’t know if i have will power to tell my teacher she might think im crazy?>. this is so frustating….

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 day, 13 hours after post)

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take a look here, hopefully this will help you

http://www.mirror-mirror.org/applove.htm

Thank you so much! excellent website^^

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

If you were once anorexic and are recovered to the extent you mention, then both of you share a commonality and you might be able to bring it to her attention - BUT you still must be ginger about it. If she looks up to you in any specific way you may be able to say to the effect “I’m recovering from a disease that would have killed me if I didn’t get treatment.”
This said to spark her own curiosity and concern for you.
Your response: “I have an eating disorder.” This makes your problem hers. And I think it may be well enough to say: “. . .and I’m scared that you may have the same condition” (Do not call it a “problem”).
The website that Double linked up for you should provide better info.

Really, all my best to you. And get better, yourself. Don’t become a victim of illusionary eyes.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

if you were anorexic too, then you have an in.
any young girl i talk to about EDs, the moment i mention im a recovered severe anorexic, they are far, far more inclined to listen and know that you understand what they are going through.

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