Am I making the right choice?

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Am I making the right choice?

My dearest friend is in a relationship where the needs of the other person seem to never be met. There is always SOMETHING. My friend is in love and I can tell all of his energy is going into the relationship and he looks worn out. He’s losing his sense of friendship, loyalty etc., and I have backed off. Not totally but I was beginning to feel stressed out from the negativity associated with that relationship. My concern is, I don’t want to abandon my friend but I have my own problems and it’s starting to get to me. I just don’t know If I am doing the right thing.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

You should say something to him, because I was once like him, and after 3 years the relationship is over and I realize it almost ruined me. It made me lose a lot of my friends, and I regret it. The problem, though, is that when people are in love they usually aren’t ready to listen to advice like this. But you can try, and when he realizes that he’s being used, at least he will appreciate the fact that you tried to help.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

Maybe point out that a good relationship leaves a person feeling good, not worn out.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

Back away and let the situation erode away at your friend - sorry. But if you have already tried to speak with him and it isn’t working then dorp it and deal with your own probs. You can be there for him when his breaking point comes.

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