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I am addicted to my Best friend.

He is a **** to me but I cant stop doing favors and letting him walk all over me. He constantly ditches me for his girlfriend,and other things and now the only time we hang out is when homework is involved. What do I do?

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SexySteph89 offline Verified User (1 month) Shouts: 17 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (1 minute after post)

Do you like him?

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adamo offline Verified User (3 weeks, 3 days) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (2 minutes after post)

Find some new friends.

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phinny4m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (2 minutes after post)

Well he is my best friend and i love him but only in a friend kind of way

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SexySteph89 offline Verified User (1 month) Shouts: 17 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (3 minutes after post)

Well there goes my theory…
It sounds like he is just using you now. He knows you will do anything for him and is taking advantage. Stop helping him so much and look for someone new to spend time with

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3 weeks, 1 day ago (4 minutes after post)

i’m addicted to meth but it doesn’t mean it’s good for me. everyone tells me to quit!

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adamo offline Verified User (3 weeks, 3 days) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (6 minutes after post)

If you really don’t want to lose his friendship you need to sit him down and have a talk. Ask him what he thinks about your friendship, if he values it, what he likes about it, how he sees you, etc.

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phinny4m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (6 minutes after post)

so can you

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (14 minutes after post)

Thank you adamo that is a smart suggestion but i have sat down and he says nice things but then nothing changes

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adamo offline Verified User (3 weeks, 3 days) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (16 minutes after post)

Jeez - it really does sound like you’re not being respected. You may want to take a look at yourself and figure out how you could be so fond of somebody who treats you so horribly. You may have deeper issues than just this friendship. Work on them now or you will be taken advantage of in the same way by future friends and lovers . . .

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (20 minutes after post)

Thank you for being honest with me i think my biggest fear is of being alone. Its senior year i dont have a girlfriend, My best friend and i did everyting together i dont want to have no one

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sum offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (23 minutes after post)

If you only hang out when homework is involved then how can you call that addicted?

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adamo offline Verified User (3 weeks, 3 days) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (23 minutes after post)

Well, if it’s senior year then you’ll be off to bigger and better things anyway. You’re lucky! In future friendships and relationships, make sure to watch for signs that you aren’t being respected.

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phinny4m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (25 minutes after post)

Well because its like a booty call situation almost two hours here and there then he will have fun somewhere else

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sum offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (30 minutes after post)

phinny4m wrote:
Well because its like a booty call situation almost two hours here and there then he will have fun somewhere else

huh? your doing homework? lol you just like seeing him thats all….. just find new friends and he will drift off eventually.

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