Love help: My best guy friend doesn’t want me to have a boyfriend. - Help.com

Do you think your guy friend might fancy you? Go out with who you like. But stay friends with him.

Tell him how you feel, he obviously fancies you but doesnt know how to tell you or how you would react if you knew.

Tell him how you feel..
every one can love someone…
even if they have friends..

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
Tell him how you feel..
every one can love someone…
even if they have friends..

living for you has the right start. talk to him is key here and make sure you word what you have to say exactly
but the question is do u see him like he sees you or not cause ur seeing some one?

i do love and care him but i don’t want to ruin our friendship. i’ve tried to ask him why he doesn’t want me to going out with someone, he’s only said that he afraid the thing between us will change but i also say that it’s not gonna happen but he doesn’t believe me and keep on upset. i do care him and don’t want him to be upset. i don’t know whether he loves me that way or not but he’s never say anything about it.

sometimes i want to know how he’s truly feel for me but i don’t know how to make him confess it.

Anonymous wrote:
i do love and care him but i don’t want to ruin our friendship. i’ve tried to ask him why he doesn’t want me to going out with someone, he’s only said that he afraid the thing between us will change but i also say that it’s not gonna happen but he doesn’t believe me and keep on upset. i do care him and don’t want him to be upset. i don’t know whether he loves me that way or not but he’s never say anything about it.

sometimes i want to know how he’s truly feel for me but i don’t know how to make him confess it.

does he LIke you more than friends???
Beacuse it can be that he likes you morer than friends and he affried to lose you..

maybe we have the same feeling for each other but just don’t want to lose friendship.

Anonymous wrote:
maybe we have the same feeling for each other but just don’t want to lose friendship.

it can be..try to talk to him

i’ve tried to talk to him about this but he keeps telling me that he loves me but don’t want to ruin friendship. -*-

anyway, thank you guys so much for the advices.

^^

Thats why he dont want you to be in love..he lovees you more than friends BUT he scared that ..if you and him start loving each other in the other why he scread that he lose you..as his gf and as his friend…

Sounds like he loves you and wants to be your boyfriend, but doesn’t have the confidence to close the deal. Some guys are just too shy to make a move and maybe that’s his problem. Do you like him in a more than just friends sort of way? If you do I suggest YOU make the first move and see what happens. If you don’t and simply want to be friends then you should date whom ever makes you happy. If he’s really just a friend he’ll get used to it and adjust… Good luck!

dm646 wrote:
Sounds like he loves you and wants to be your boyfriend, but doesn’t have the confidence to close the deal. Some guys are just too shy to make a move and maybe that’s his problem. Do you like him in a more than just friends sort of way? If you do I suggest YOU make the first move and see what happens. If you don’t and simply want to be friends then you should date whom ever makes you happy. If he’s really just a friend he’ll get used to it and adjust… Good luck!

good idea and goodluck..
100% agree…with you dm646

Thanks you guys so much ^^

He’s the one that I love and really care. Today, my date calls me when I’m with him and he’s upset about it as usual. I said that I’m not in love with him yet, we are just starting to see if it’s work or not. After i finished explaining, he hugged me and kiss my cheek and said he loves me so much but he’s not good enough for me but now he’s not ready to see i’m with other guys, he said he needs a time. I suddenly cried when I heard this T^T, and he hugged me a little longer and not allow me to say anything. He said that he can’t make me happy one day we may break up and he don’t want that to happen. T^T

i’ve tried to make him believe that he’s good enough for me but nothing works, he also said that he’ll stay single forever - -”

I just really don’t know what to do or say. T^T

Be there for him, don’t let him distance himself from you, tell him how you feel about him, keep telling him you don’t care if he thinks he’s not good enough for you.
Although he does have a point. I’ve been in a similar situation, genders reversed, some small details changed, but essentially the same. We went out for 18 months, then I broke up with her, we basically haven’t spoken for 6 months and I’d be surprised if we ever really speak again.
I always hate it when people use their own bad experiences as an argument against good advice, so I’m still saying you should go for it, but you have to beware that things can go wrong.

thank you. :)