i’m not a good looking girl , to say it straight - Help.com

is it just your facial features you dislike, or other parts of your body?

I think everyone is beautiful in their own way. smile and you will look beautiful, but it has to be a real one.
Why do you feel like this? Are people nasty about the way you look?

Some are born pretty and some plain but i don’t think the physical things should be the concern. Here are two things:

1. do you have proper hygiene?
2. are you friendly enough to be with people?
3. what specific physical thing are we referring to here?

even though we know we should be positive or optimistic, it is so hard for us
to accept ourselvs the way we look frankly.
and i have the same problem, too. i know how i look so sometimes
i act like i am the person who doesnt care about it at all with confidence.
but i have been looking like this in my entire life,
and i just cant change it easily. i have tried hard and spent a lot of money,too.

what i am trying to say is just one thing.
no matter what kind of situations you are in,
if you think you’re not good or pretty enough,
nobody would. then some how you would ack like that

look at yourself often in the mirror.
and try to catch a moment when you see your self really beautiful.
say out loud to yourself that you look **** hot sometimes
becuase you do, not everyday but sometimes.
once you get used to do it, you wouldnt be surprised
by someone says that you’re beautiful.

because you are, dear.

Hmm, sounds like you feel that your looks are causing some additional issues in your life, like social issues or independence issues or something like that. You can always try to work backwards and figure out what having good looks would solve and that should give you a place to start. It might be changing your approach to the problem that could help you break away from the negative thoughts. I get depressed over how I look a lot as well. I think it’s just natural being in a society who places so much value in how other people see us.

and out of the many ppl I know in which English is their first language, your English is better. Lol. What’s your native language?

before we fix ourselves on the outside
we need to look further from the inside :/

not a problem, english isn’t my second language as well. :)

seems actually that you’re a pretty normal person. sometimes we feel ok with ourselves. other times we don’t. i guess it’s the breakdowns that bother me a bit. :)

i think though, acceptance is the key rather than fighting it. why do we need to care about looks so much? because evolution dictates so. we are WIRED to care about looks. at least to a certain extent.

accepting this, i believe, creates a more sustainable solution to insecurity. accept it. move on. instead of constantly asking WHY do we need to care about looks. and WHY should we fall prey to the demands of society etc.

but this acceptance shouldn’t come without any action. it just mean that you need to focus on other areas in your life you can be proud about. it may be your intellect. your talent. your wit. your ability to influence others. even the ability to make other people smile.

I think it’s a confidence thing hun. When I was at school I used to get bullied all the time, people calling me names, everyone used to avoid sitting next to me. I used to feel like everyone thought that I was horrible,disgusting, vile, retarded. I used to feel really bad about myself because of how I was treated. but when I left school all of that stopped. I am now appriciated and because of that I regained confidence and like who I am. Because there is nothing wrong with me, only people’s prejudices. I am beautiful. Everyone is beautiful. They just have to realise it. We are living creatures with a soul, morals, smiles. If you do what is right and have a heart, then I think you are beautiful. It’s what you do that counts, not what you look like.