Relationships help: Guys lose interest easily right, just like in my case…? - Help.com

Why do girls waste time over analyzing everything?

What creates interest for a man?

a girl who
- smiles at him
- laughs at his jokes
- asks his opinion on things
- asks for his help with things (though not being clueless or helpless)
- is open and vulnerable (and not so anxious that her face looks worried or unhappy)
- talks to him and is interested in him (nothing worse than an insecure girl who spends all her time wondering about herself when she should be talking to him and creating an easy, friendly conversation)

I assume he was/is interested, but people are awkward. The post shows that you have some confusion and social awkwardness, if he’s a college student involved in several high-profile clubs, he too is likely very socially awkward.

When you have two socially awkward people that are trying to connect, it’s like watching two drunk chimpanzees trying to Fk a wet football… awkward and fumbling.

If it’s a passing interest, let it be and see if he approaches you. If you are strongly interested, take a deep breath, walk up to him, and ask if he would want to have lunch with you.

The first few meetings will likely be filled with long drawn out silences where both of you will be thinking “Oh noes! They are quiet, they must not be interested… awwww but I LIKE them!”. Unless he goes out of his way to avoid you after you express interest, silence (especially if he is looking at you) indicates awkward interest.

linuxya wrote:
Why do girls waste time over analyzing everything?

What creates interest for a man?

a girl who
- smiles at him
- laughs at his jokes
- asks his opinion on things
- asks for his help with things (though not being clueless or helpless)
- is open and vulnerable (and not so anxious that her face looks worried or unhappy)
- talks to him and is interested in him (nothing worse than an insecure girl who spends all her time wondering about herself when she should be talking to him and creating an easy, friendly conversation)

erm, i would talk to him you know. just that i dont like to do it over facebook and i prefer a face-to-face interaction. and.. i’ve never had the chance to do that.

Coalesce wrote:
I assume he was/is interested, but people are awkward. The post shows that you have some confusion and social awkwardness, if he’s a college student involved in several high-profile clubs, he too is likely very socially awkward.

When you have two socially awkward people that are trying to connect, it’s like watching two drunk chimpanzees trying to Fk a wet football… awkward and fumbling.

If it’s a passing interest, let it be and see if he approaches you. If you are strongly interested, take a deep breath, walk up to him, and ask if he would want to have lunch with you.

The first few meetings will likely be filled with long drawn out silences where both of you will be thinking “Oh noes! They are quiet, they must not be interested… awwww but I LIKE them!”. Unless he goes out of his way to avoid you after you express interest, silence (especially if he is looking at you) indicates awkward interest.

yeah im usually confused. i’d be less so when guys are more obvious in their interest ;) social awkwardness.. well, everyone has it. hmm but why would he be socially awkward..he’s suposed to be “popular” and “sociable”.

i dont think he will approach me or anything. we’ve rarely see each other in person. and though we have each other on facebook… i somehow prefer a more human interaction. hmmm awkward interest, ive never thought of that. well, usually he is quiet ard me anyways. ha. our situation is abit.. difficult.

http://www.questionablecontent.net/vi…
http://www.questionablecontent.net/vi…

Read these two panels, they will explain everything. And should give you a wonderful idea as to how to handle the situation! :)

my god how true. and this has always happened to me. hahaha yes yes…have to er,, find some space behind a counter or sth. scary how the girl in the comic has my name too. ;) thx!