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What are you saying?

Don’t you have a best friend or even just one friend to talk to?

It’s alright. You’re not alone in this problem…

For now, you’re here on this site to treat this one problem: your distinction from other human beings.

But isn’t it easier to share and open up here? It’s just online, nothing to fear, we just want to help!

???? okayyyy…guess we’ll just wait here

When you come back…can you tell us what country you live in? Knowing our cultural difference can sometimes help.

Oh, well it just seemed like English is your second language, sorry.

steff wrote:
Oh, well it just seemed like English is your second language, sorry.

…Tactless.

not tactless, I didn’t say it to be mean, I was being sincere.

Hello,
I am sorry to hear that you find it hard to share your feelings, however I feel it is important to tell you that you are not alone, everybody hides so many feelings from other people. All you can do is take a leap of faith, which is hard. But you don’t want to be like me, and have too much faith in people.

no! not the frying pan!!

steff wrote:
not tactless, I didn’t say it to be mean, I was being sincere.

“lacking or showing a lack of what is fitting and considerate in dealing with others”

Je ne sais pa wrote:

Yours Truly. wrote:

steff wrote:
Oh, well it just seemed like English is your second language, sorry.

…Tactless.

You better hide cause im coming after you with that frying pan

Done. Now you’ll never find me behind the secret door within your closet!

I wish I had a secret door…

Well.. Opening up to people is the best you could do! Trust me. try it! One of my friends just told me a few days ago that she’d want to share all her secrets with me now cause she is tired of just talking to and thinking by herself.

Try opening up with smaller things. Lets talk about all the the silliest things and not about your problems for now. Maybe that will help you open up better.

Lets start here.. Tell me something about Florida.

Steff, you can come here and I will hide you! :)

*heads over to littlenick’s house*

poof… fairy dust…I was sprinkled with some magic and decided to share. I found this site one night when I googled to find what I needed. Help. I realized I had plenty of people to talk to, but felt as though I couldn’t possibly burden them with my problems. Little problems.. big problems.. the problems I listen to all of them discuss, and try to help them with. I am decent at listening, but I’ve never felt comfortable talking about anything substantial. I feel like with them (the people in my life) I have to be careful, because words can be fanciful, and hurtful.. plus they are prob concerned with more important things than my issues. I’m also always concerned that I might say something that would annoy them, embarrass me or make them think less of me as a person. This site is freeing. I understand what you’re saying. I, as well, always feel as though my post’s should be more meaningful, maybe less rant filled, and sometimes I go back look at them and think… wow what a mountain I made out of that mole hill… But that is the whole point. We are able to say our peace without repercussion. we can post the over-reactions we have and let them go. Post things anonymous if you think they are too silly. But don’t think that people don’t care.. we are seeking each other out.. we are listening

i am so sorry dear to hear you are not getting enough attention :O(

i also do not open up to people, i think anonymity is the only reason i am able to even function in this site,i am not sure if there is a quick fix to any problem,

perhaps the first step to solve any problem is to acknowledge there is a problem and the next is to find a way to talk about things to anyone you trust and feel comfortable with, tell that person that you want to talk, slowly and gradually, in your own time, and perhaps that would help you to overcome this feeling of being bottled up.

in the end of the day, your feelings are natural, we all have to make our own decisions in life and be ready to face the consequences of our actions whether positive or negative.

in my experience, it might sound odd, but almost all that we seek in life is already in our possession, concealed in plain sight, your attitude is your “fairy dust” and you may have more tools that you are not aware of that would give you a great advantage over your difficulties, the secret is not to panic or become anxious and try to find a solution calmly and learn to be patient when you are not able to find an immediate solution,

please remember that your brain also follows a habit of patterns, the key is to not waste your energy on the wrong questions in life, its natural to have issues in life, so do not bother about worthless eternal questions “why me” or other self indulging questions of issues, rather teach yourself to think in a positive state of mind “its expected” “nothing new” “could have been worse” and “will deal with it no matter what”, this way you will not feel overwhelmed,

if you cannot fix it, then you have to deal with it, plan ahead, look forward to good days but be mentally prepared for the worse so you can support yourself and your loved ones,

it sounds a bit harsh but its, in my opinion, a natural part of growing up, people forget we do not only grow up physically, we also actually continue growing emotionally throughout our lives :O)

although we look for love as a solution, there is a responsibility to one’s self, (might sound odd) but I think to love one’s self is also important (not selfishness), we need to care about our emotional wellbeing just as we care about our physical needs :O)

being selfless is a virtue, but in my opinion, the recognition of yourself, to care about yourself, your strengths, your abilities, is a key to overcoming a lot of struggles in your life,

I am just writing this hoping you might find an angle that would be helpful to you dear,

(HUGS)

Je ne sais pa wrote:

steff wrote:
no! not the frying pan!!

wanna gang on truly yours ;)

Ugh, gang-bang.

Hi, nice to here that florida is hot, I am in LA and its getting cloudy and cold and i hate it!! And i’d rather post this with my id than just being anonymous, so here it is :)

I doubt it gets cold in LA!

Well, cold as per LA standards, and I donot like it! I like the sun and the light :)

iamtheretolisten wrote:
Well, cold as per LA standards, and I donot like it! I like the sun and the light :)

haha, it’s probably warm for my standards

Haha! So what do u do ? A student or do you work?

coool.. :).. so . try this one..! When i ask u some question, be as elaborative as u can !

What do you study?