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Sounds like you could be experiencing a good old fashioned mid-life crisis. Have you had a medical check-up lately to rule out any physical causes? Did the panic attacks and depression just begin recently?
well you need to wake up with a smile on ur face the next time u wake up
because that sends a message to ur body and setd ur mood into a good possision and i am under 15 =D
so take a deepbreath and tell urself god i will live my life well, and i thank you for giving me a long healthy life…m’kay?=D
it’s hard…my mother is 45 and is stressing over the same problem, but my aunt bought my mom this CD and it tells how to deal with life..it’s a priest saying it….we listen to it together….it’s got nice words in it………….. yea =D
Hi there lydo
I can possibly help you with this. I know a little excercise you can do in under 2 minutes that will help you a LOT. Would you be keen on trying it?
Part of the reason I am feeling so low is that I have no one in my life who really cares whether I live or die. My son was always my “inspiration” and he doesn’t ever want me around anymore. Of course, I guess I don’t blame him since it’s been so long since I’ve been able to get anything positive going in my life. I suffered an “on the job injury” about two years ago and I found out at that time that I have osteo arthritis which has left me with a collapsed disc in my neck. Just this past month (when I started looking for work), I twisted my ankle and pulled ligaments and tendons in my foot and then I got the flu which turned into bronchitis. It’s hard to handle all this when there’s no support system. Of course, I realize that I’m not any different from lots of other people out there who are facing life “on their own”. It just seems to get harder when you get older. Asia Gal - your mother is very lucky to have you in her life. You are a good person for taking the time to listen to the CD with your mother. She probably says a prayer every day thanking God for you in her life. SelfConfidence I would very much like to know what the exercise is. I’m sure anything positive anyone could suggest to me at this time would be helpful.
candp-I have been experiencing the panic attacks and depression since I was 12 years olds. But lately they have gotten worse. If I had the money, I would get some counseling, but it is so expensive.
OK try this. It will at least DEFINATELY help you with your self esteem/ confidence.
Asian girl is young… but right. It starts in the body.
Im guessing now your shoulders are slumped and your neck is limp, right?
Okay, stand up, put a big cheesey grin on your face put your shoulders back and walk around the room as if you were queen of the world, really strut as if you were invincible and unstoppable for at least 30 seconds, up to a minute. Do it NOW! Don’t think about it,just DO IT!
Okay, if you did it, I imagine you felt better?
confidence, happiness, etc recent studies have proved these things begin in the physical body. Hold that upbeat posture, keep that cheesey grin and TRY and feel depressed. My guess is… you can’t.
I hope this helped.
You can use this technique whenever you want.
SelfConfidence - you are so right. I’ve missed having someone to “lift” my mood. Thank you.
As for counselling, I wish I was qualified! Please please please please please check out www.gettheedge.com or www.tonyrobbins.com. I was 19 - 24 years old a homeless bum, like literally sleeping on park benches etc, addicted to “ice” dabbled in heroine, speed etc you name it. As a younger kid I was a glue/ petrol sniffer with an abusive past.
When I did the get the edge program it completely changed my life. The above technique I learned from this program. Its $200 australian in instalments of $39. If this is a bit much look for get the edge or personal power on ebay. There’s always copies floating around.
DO IT it is absolutely life changing. He (tony robbins) has done teenage drug addicts one on one, to world leaders such as mikhail gorbachov, Bill Clinton, george bush jr.
It’s for everyone, its not all about money its about the joy and juice of life. Better than any counselling you may get. He is considered the world leader in the field.
GOOD LUCK!
Maybe I am wrong, Maybe I am 16, But I find these answers way too trivial for the big matter of Having a hard time living and going trought the I-Am-A-Usseles-Old-Not-Loved-Person Issue,Lydo I am sure those replys you have gotten from them are not going to solve your problems at all, as I said, They are way too trivial.
My advice, I know what is not to have someone care for when If you die, And i might not be able to help you out with your relationship with your son(Whom you should definately have a sincere talk with about you two.)But I can tell you..There are many more things in life than you can imagine..for an instanse you could get hobby’s, learn how to play the violin? maybe a chess club? a gym would be a great idea! Filling yourself with things to do, will leave you with less time to think about problems and stresfull times, Im sure by going to the gym you will be more healthy..and who knows! you might as well find a partner in your way in and out!The violin as I said..Its just an example, could be a piano or a guitarr , i dont know! anything you like..Music has been proven to cure the heart..while expressing sounds we, humans, cannot.
Those are just some examples I repeat..There are many many things to do in this world…try to get strong by doing things that will make you facinating in your own way…Im totally sure that will make you happier, and that in your road you will find someone…at least someone who will care for you a lot, trust me, the world has 6,525,170,264~ Humans waiting out there and some of them feel the same way as you do.
Give yourself a chance.
And please dont give up.
Alejandro.
canaso my friend, try my exercise. it is not a magic pill but I learned it from the world leader in the field of self improvement, www.tonyrobbins.com ~Ill tell you what, read it try it and if you feel the same, fine, Ill concede that it didn’t work for you. I do this for money among other related things, i do it for free on help.com. My last job took me 7 minutes and I got $35 australian.
Do it do it do it, be as skeptical as you like - but, like computers, self improvement is a technology. All technologies evolve. If you can do the excercise and feel depressed I will be amazed. I have not had a failure yet with this technique
warm regards lawrence
Oh come on, It’s canoso. And for your exercise, I never said anything to try and say it is bad and well..good for you that you are making some good money, But I fimrly state, walking as believing if you were a god for 30 seconds up to 1 minute,is not gonna pay your bills, is not gonna make you good at your job, is not gonna make your life a piece of cake.
So lets be realistic.. >.>
yea, but you didn’t do it did you?
I’ve been so depressed that just knowing someone cares enough to reply to my post makes me feel good. I appreciate both of your suggestions and found them both very helpful. You have both suggested things that I used to practice, but had forgotten.
Canoso, that’s pretty sweet, huh? Let’s both be happy with that.
PS try it.
Nope, tho this thread isnt for us to talk about it so this will be my last post, All I hope is, lydo,keep on going..If you ever need to talk to someone..Hey send me a mail or something, im free to talk whenever awake :P
Good point my friend canoso. I’m gonna watch a movie and relax, both you guys have a fantastic night and new year and so on!
you’re a good kid and a lovely lady of that Im sure.
YIPPEE KI YAY!!!
Lol..None of us like getting older. Most of us have children and they are problems with children and relatives. This is called LIFE…..
I’m 60 and it does not get better. My faith has substained me. Without it, would probably be where you are at my friend.
See your doctor about an anti-depressant. It has really helped me deal with these problems, and we ALL got them…
Good luck and God Bless!
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Should read, most of us have children and there are problems with children and relatives.
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Where do you live? Maybe someone will have some resources for you.
=D i`m glad that i could help….and remeber..i’m still ur friend =D
by the way i’m an Asian Girl.. ;D
Hi lydo. i am 48 and think these ‘label numbers’ we attach to ourselves are crazy. Life can be very hard at any age, or magical depending on whether we feel loved, valued and important to someone. If there is no one (or at least if it feels like that) you have to chose to love yourself by accepting and being sensitive to yourself. Allow yourself to express, cry whatever, then do EVERYTHING that might make a difference, starting with anything that appeals even slightly. The trick is to pay attention to your inner self AND the help others are offering. i love Antony Robbins (the coach mentioned above). There are many others offering helpful things to try. Posture helps. looking in the mirror and saying i LOVE YOU helps. doing this internet stuff, eating something special, communicating more fully with your son etc etc. All the other ideas..joining a gym etc etc. all of it helps. A LOT. Get one thing at a time moving, and be allowing and loving to how you feel. perhaps get a counsellor. Fifty is a silly silly number that makes you feel your life is closing down. Challenge it, it’s rubbish. set new standards for fifty so that when we all get there it feels like thirty. It’s all in the mind! Love Gabrielle.
gab that is an awesome reply, GO GAB!
Well, Seek a counselor, or Guideance to help you with the mental health issue. That is all I guess.
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