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I think the only thing you CAN do is to help him find a job, if he doesn’t already have one. Then explain to your folks that he is working and needs somewhere to get stable, and get back on his feet until he can find a place to live. This sounds like a tough situation….

SC has a good point. The only thing you can do is to help him straighten out his life. Obviously, if your own personal life starts spiraling downward while trying to help him, you should focus on yourself. But if everything is fine with you, try to show him you care by assisting him get back on his feet. Don’t do all the work for him, make sure he is able to get up himself to look for work.

Also, lending a simple ear to listen to him throughout his hard time is a great way to show you care. Think about what you would want if you were in his position.

Again though, I cannot reiterate it enough that you should make sure your own wellbeing is taken care of first.

Try to get him to move into a shelter and see if he can get a job in the meantime.

Take a good, hard look at whether it’s a healthy relationship. Are you the kind of person who needs to “save” people who need saving? Because those people usuallly end up getting taken advantage of. How did he become homeless? I’m sure he blames everybody but himself. But it’s unlikely that it was all the fault of other people. Sorry if this sounds harsh. Just trying to get you to think about your own best interests.

He’s only 19 and his dad kicked him out. Something about him being done with school he can live on his own.

Well, if he’s really a good person and he deserves better, and he respects you and treats you well, then you should see how your dad would feel about him moving in until you guys have enough money to get your own place.

Hes an amazing person thats why I cant stand not being able to help

Talk to your Dad! Save money and get a place with this guy.