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It sucks, huh? There’s no solution, I’m in a very similar situation. Hook-up type here and I wish I was in a relationship from time to time but there’s not one person I would want one with. Besides, if you’re a hook-up type of person, you’ll probably get bored with a relationship shortly into it. Not bad I suppose, but usually the other person wants it to last longer, thus making things difficult.

well…maybe your not ready for a relationship quite yet. in my opinion, i think you should give the guy a chance, and not think in the back of your mind that its never going to work cuz than it wont.

i thought that the guy who ive been with for 4 years now would be someone that i dont wanna be with, but you never know unless you give it a chance. and im glad i did bcuz hes the best thing ever.

if your not ready for a relationship, dont rush it. you dont *need* someone there, u *need* to be independant, otherwise, u are always dependant and (just saying) if that someone left (for some reason) u are stuck bcuz you dont know how to depend on yourself.

do you get what im saying? i dont put things into writing good lol.

As you grow, you will go through many different relationships. During the time you are alone and single, you may long for someone to love you, it is completely natural. The best thing you can do though is not rush into anything. If you’re looking for someone for the sake of a relationship, it might not work out in the end and could become more decremental and painful.

I’ve been single for a couple years now. Yeah, I’ve dated a few girls here and there for small bursts like a month or two, and yes I’ve hooked up randomly with people, but I haven’t had a relationship in about 3 years. Personally, I am okay with this because I have been able to build myself up to who I want to be and just have fun hanging out with my friends and enjoying life.

Try not to dwell on being alone because that is not going to help, you will just become depressed about not having anyone for you. So just go out there and enjoy your young years. Have fun with your friends and just be out there. In time, some one will come along when you least expect it and deliver the world to you. Just be patient.

Anonymous wrote:
It sucks, huh? There’s no solution, I’m in a very similar situation. Hook-up type here and I wish I was in a relationship from time to time but there’s not one person I would want one with. Besides, if you’re a hook-up type of person, you’ll probably get bored with a relationship shortly into it. Not bad I suppose, but usually the other person wants it to last longer, thus making things difficult.

i guess youre right, but that doesnt stop me from wanting something serious. it goes away and comes back but when its there i jst want to have someone for real.

kelsie_jean199 wrote:
well…maybe your not ready for a relationship quite yet. in my opinion, i think you should give the guy a chance, and not think in the back of your mind that its never going to work cuz than it wont.

i thought that the guy who ive been with for 4 years now would be someone that i dont wanna be with, but you never know unless you give it a chance. and im glad i did bcuz hes the best thing ever.

if your not ready for a relationship, dont rush it. you dont *need* someone there, u *need* to be independant, otherwise, u are always dependant and (just saying) if that someone left (for some reason) u are stuck bcuz you dont know how to depend on yourself.

do you get what im saying? i dont put things into writing good lol.

hah i understand what you’re saying..the thing is that i’ve always been independent and i definitly dont rely on any guy ever. but sometimes i jsut feel like i want someone there.

I’m a relationship person so I have a really hard time with short-term hook-ups. I like the idea but I just can’t seem to make it happen. On the other hand, my friend Todd is the king of the one-night hookup but every relationship he’s had has faiiled, and he is miserable and lonely. I think it’s a case of the grass is always greener. Relationships are wonderful, but you have to put yourself out there, and be prepared for the possibility of getting hurt emotionally (it happens, unfortunately). But I agree that relationships are where it’s at . . . now that you have this new perspective, you can try to apply it with Oliver or any other nice guy that you happen to meet.

yes, i know how you feel. i have never really had friends, a few ones here and there, but no one to call my “best friend”. he is definatly my best friend though. and sometimes, the one you fall in love with is your best friend. :) you just never know until you give it a chance.

its like that guy’s name
Everything has reason.

trust me hunny, im as independant as they get, lol.

adamo wrote:
I’m a relationship person so I have a really hard time with short-term hook-ups. I like the idea but I just can’t seem to make it happen. On the other hand, my friend Todd is the king of the one-night hookup but every relationship he’s had has faiiled, and he is miserable and lonely. I think it’s a case of the grass is always greener. Relationships are wonderful, but you have to put yourself out there, and be prepared for the possibility of getting hurt emotionally (it happens, unfortunately). But I agree that relationships are where it’s at . . . now that you have this new perspective, you can try to apply it with Oliver or any other nice guy that you happen to meet.

haha thanks. that actually seemed to help in a strange way. but i dont knwo anyone i woudl want to actually date. oliver is cute and we’re really good friends but i dont know if i would actually want a relationship with him. thats the problem. when i narrow it down i dont really want a relationship with any of the guys i know. is somethign wrong with me? why do i not like seriosu relationships?

Ha! No, nothing is wrong with you. It’s a common problem. Especially because the things that attract us to somebody short-term usually aren’t the same things that make that person a good boyfriend/girlfriend. Give you an example, I am always attracted to women who turn out to be lousy girlfriends. On the other hand, I have female friends who I KNOW would be awesome girlfriends, but I’m just not that attracted to them. It’s our **** biology. We are designed to make ourselves unhappy :-( But I wouldn’t assume that you don’t like serious relationships - you just haven’t tried it yet! You’ll get plenty of opportunities, trust me!