I’m a 27 year old teacher and have been dating/living with a 35 year old woman with two children for about a year now.

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I’m a 27 year old teacher and have been dating/living with a 35 year old woman with two children for about a year now.

She has taken great care of me and things have really been good. Our relationship has been mutually supportive except for me never saying “I love you” which really bothered her. Now that she has moved on to a 52 year old man I am suffering through the regrets the come with losing someone you are attached to. We’ve talked alot in the past month since she left me (which i deserved since i was not willing to make a commitment) and frequently calls saying she and the other man fight all the time, yet are planning to get married. Alcohol is a factor in their relationship (he got her by providing lots of alcohol over a few month period and promising to take care of her) but alcohol was not a factor in our relationship.

I realize now that age is not a factor and would like to get her back, and get married. I’ve told her all of my feelings and apologized for my lack of commitment. The other day she called drunk and said the man broke up with her for good, and she asked me to call her in the morning. When I did, she got mad b/c he was still there. I can see they are in a codependent relationship, and am worried i may have lost her forever. I do love her, and understand that my current feelings are more than just the typical breakup emotions.

I would appreciate any input you may have on this. I have thought through this over and over, and am willing to take the risks of getting hurt again in the future, b/c i really think she is the person for me for the long haul. Thanks :)

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Anonymous #
1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

A relationship based on alcohol will never be good, and clearly she’ll be really happy. You need to go after her, if not for you then for her, because she needs you as much as you need her.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

Okay. The time has come to say it. . . repeat after me -
“I’m sorry for having disregarded you. And I’m sorry for the quiet pain you have suffered and lived in for the time we were together. I’m not very good with expressing myself and my need for you. Since we’ve been apart, I’ve been an empty shell, and the only thing I know how to say now is, ‘I love you.’”

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

tell it like it is. life is short, so you might as well get what you want. you should tell her what you wrote on here and just be real. t this point, you only have something to gain. you only have one life to live and even if you live agin, it wont be the same and arond the same people

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (3 days, 14 hours after post)

She left you for booze? Are you sure you want this woman? Wow! Move on and quit crying!

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