I have a daughter who is married to “a moron”. - Help.com

what is moron? please

Its to late for you to do anything about it. Should have done something when she was 10 to teach her to stay away from people like this.

yeah here’s the truth

get over it its her life not yours you ungrateful woman

I know that is kind of “idiot” behaviour, that he can’t multi task while haveing his child around and more so for him expecting it to be ok to leave the child at the hospital but there is nothing you can do about, it is your daughters relationship, you can advise her that him doing that is not on but it is down to her what she does about and if she does anythign at all.

hey at least he is doing the laundry and the shopping. Some people are married to complete dead weights; be thankful for what you have.

Da⌐11 wrote:
hey at least he is doing the laundry and the shopping. Some people are married to complete dead weights; be thankful for what you have.

Oh I agree!
he could of been sat on his butt doing nothing at all.

ooooooooooomg he dropped his son off to see his mother while he takes care of the stuff she can’t do because she is ill because that is so bad
life has to go on even if she is in the hospital he could have NOT dropped his kid off
wow yeah he’s a moron alright

ĐaNi HaŦeS ŸoŪ wrote:
ooooooooooomg he dropped his son off to see his mother while he takes care of the stuff she can’t do because she is ill because that is so bad
life has to go on even if she is in the hospital he could have NOT dropped his kid off
wow yeah he’s a moron alright

1000% agree..

op ?? Whats that mean?

You are very upset.

When you are upset, you blame your feelings on other people… the husband. Because you are angry, you label him as a moron. That makes it easier for you to vent your frustrations because you are worried about your daughter.

All perfectly natural.

However, by labelling the husband as a moron, you dehumanize him. You no longer consider him as a person with hopes and fears, someone who may be perfectly capable of being more helpful to his wife IF HE KNEW HOW TO COPE with his own issues.

When you allow the husband to be a human with fears and failings, you can approach him as a person and explore why he does the things that make you uncomfortable. Perhaps some guidance or mentoring will help him. Men enjoy doing things that make them feel good. It may well be that he doesn’t know how to cope with the child, or that he feels angry about his wife being sick because he feels deprived of her help and attention. You must look at his side of things if you ever want to understand how to help. Your daughter’s aggravated asthma condition may even be a symptom of conflict in their household, conflict arising from poor coping skills.

Your current approach will simply keep you angry, will alienate the husband from your family, and will cause bad feelings with your daughter.