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ayla86

Hello, I am brand new here, but this seems like a good place for advice and sharing experiences.

I’ve always been quite liberal. When I was a teenager, I realized I was bi. And it was ever a problem for me, or my friends, or my family. It was all ok. When I was 17, I fell in love with a very special girl. It didn’t last and we broke up four years ago. Since then she’s been very successful.. new girlfriend, she became a model.. and I have nothing but a broken heart. I’ve tried my best in all these years to get over her, but here I am, years later, not having spoken to her for a long time, knowing only what she’s been up to through Facebook.. completely unable to get over her. I think she was my one true love, how can I possibly get over that? And yet I know I have to, because she’s obviously moved on, and I know in my soul I’ll never see her again.

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littlenick 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (3 minutes after post)

Now you should move on as well, or at least try. Why would you remain stuck on her?

You know that relationship will never happen or will never be again, just do the sane thing and move on!

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J.N Location unknown 470 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (9 minutes after post)

I think you are torturing yourself by keeping up with what she is doing, you won’t get over her by doing this, you need a clean break.

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evansent:) 738 #
GB | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (11 minutes after post)

im sorry hun, heartbreak is no picnic
however, all hearst can be mended
you just have to get back on that horse&find another princess

stop beating yourself up, get out there&live!

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ayla86 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (15 minutes after post)

Yes, getting over her is what I want more than anything! But my head says one thing and my heart says a completely different thing.. :) Even though I want to move on, my heart seems to have trouble getting over her. I have deleted her from Facebook, so now I know nothing about what she’s up to.

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R.A.M 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (16 minutes after post)

Its hard moving on after someone who meant the world to you…
And I agree you will never meet anyone just like her!
But there is a chance you will meet someone better suited than her for you.
Just be patient and move on!
Remember if you live in the past the future is never going to come..

J.N Location unknown 470 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (20 minutes after post)

I know you will not want to hear this but you need to give it time, nobody can say how long it will take, you have made a good move by deleting her from facebook, don’t ask anyone else anything about her either, the less you know th better.

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ayla86 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (29 minutes after post)

No, I probably won’t ever meet anyone like her again. But I just want to get over it, and no longer care about that, try to forget how it was.
I know time is supposed to heal it, but after 4 years… it’s a long time already.

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J.N Location unknown 470 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (32 minutes after post)

But in that 4 years you have still been checking on her progress & you have not been away from her as you should of been, this has been preventing your wounds from healing properly. The healing process will be easier now you have cut all ties & contact.

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littlenick 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (36 minutes after post)

You’re stuck on a fantasy. What could’ve been, what would’ve been, what should’ve been.

Move on from that. Your future awaits you.

Quit checking facebook on this girl’s progress or no progress. You need to exorcise yourself of any thoughts and feelings you have for this girl. Talk to a counselor. Let it all out and I think once you relieve your soul and mind of any and all thoughts of this girl, you will be able to move on with your own life and projects.

Do it as soon as possible. Your sanity depends on it.

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king_sik 6 #
Leonardtown, MD, US | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (39 minutes after post)

Try talking to her again. You never know…

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ayla86 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (40 minutes after post)

Yes, you make a very good point, I have been checking on her. No more though, I’m avoiding hearing about her at all costs.

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J.N Location unknown 470 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (42 minutes after post)

It is for the best, you can’t torture yourself forever.

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (49 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
You’re stuck on a fantasy. What could’ve been, what would’ve been, what should’ve been.

Move on from that. Your future awaits you.

Gee, sounds like the lyrics for a duet. You do the “move on” part and I’ll sing about the “fantasy”.

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littlenick 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

linuxya wrote:

littlenick wrote:
You’re stuck on a fantasy. What could’ve been, what would’ve been, what should’ve been.

Move on from that. Your future awaits you.

Gee, sounds like the lyrics for a duet. You do the “move on” part and I’ll sing about the “fantasy”.

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