Hi frist time one here, just looking for some help with my divorce, - Help.com

Well, the first step in any relationship breakdown is to stop blaming the other person for your unhappiness. They act however they do because of their own hopes and fears and it has nothing to do with you. When you adjust your expectations and see how their behaviour is driven by their needs, it can help you avoid anger and instead just feel pity for them. It also helps you figure out the most efficient way of helping them satisfy their needs and leave you alone.

Its not up to you to satisfy your ex’s needs for him to move on - the whole bigger man quote does not apply when/if your being abused without provocation just because the other party is upset
it kinda depends what your situation is to determine the best course of action, can you explain more of why the relationship has ended and how his behavior has been

You don’t get it. But I’m too bored to care.

no I do get it, and you are right if your coming from a general sense cause alot of failed relationships tend to harbor bitterness and focus on the others pitfalls rather than realizing that it took two to make it and two to break it, however…
I just threw in my bit in case we’re talking about an abusive ex, and I dont necessarily mean physically abusive, but it changes how you would deal with continued harassment
but since the poster hasnt replied we can only guess