ok so this a question for girls.. - Help.com

RIGHT BACK AT’CHA ,BABE.
:P

Honestly, why does anything happen then.
Most of us do spend quite a lot of time running around whether we be male or female.
Fehh….

Some girls are just plain suckers for punishment.

this is so true. its because we can’t see whats right in front of us, we get carried away with chasing after the wrong people

of course this doesn’t apply to everyone :P

Confidence is attractive but sometimes that “confidence” goes a little too far and love-blindness blurs the line.

Also, “He’s mean but he likes ME! I must be really special”

ahh ..
confidence..
yea i guess your right miss…

its a status symbol.

Well the mean guys make you feel like you can’t live without them in a devious way, you get dependent on that emotion. When the girl wises up she will begin to choose the nice guy, but until she realizes the games the mean guys are playing on her she will stay oblivious to the confidence she is losing due to the mean men she has been dating. You should probably look for a girl who is intellegent and nice like yourself, who understands why you are that way. Keep being a good guy, the mean guys are being mean to get many things that are not healthy for a relationship. I’m glad the nice guys in my life did not leave my side because they made for the examples of what I needed in a man. I praise all the nice guys out there, you have made me a better person. :o)

ty
i know she’s gonna come back to me for more help
should i still help her??
i mean I don’t think i can even think of not helping .. but maybe i should say something else to her??
you think she will listen?

If you like her tell her.

If she hasn’t listened to you yet, she probably will think that you sound like a broken tape recorder. Do you like her for more than just friends? Also if so is this effecting you in anyway?

uhm she’s in a relationship..
and i don’t want her to get confused right now..
and what if she doesn’t feel the same way? i don’t think she’ll trust me enough after that..

if shes in a relationship that sucks and you could provide her with something better there is nothing wrong with telling her. And that last sentence? The reason girls like bad guys is cos they would never think like that. Man up, if you want her, go get her.

i mean, im a girl and i like nice guys.
the thing about it is..nice guys make really good friends. and sometimes i feel like because theyre so nice i cant really be myself around them..i dont know. sometimes its because theyre too innocent. but i definitly think that although the confident ones get all of the one night hookups, i usually like relationships with the nice guys.

I see where you are coming from, that is how a nice guy would think of the situation. How long has she been with the jerk?

andthisisme wrote:
i mean, im a girl and i like nice guys.
the thing about it is..nice guys make really good friends. and sometimes i feel like because theyre so nice i cant really be myself around them..i dont know. sometimes its because theyre too innocent. but i definitly think that although the confident ones get all of the one night hookups, i usually like relationships with the nice guys.

be honest please..
do you sometimes wish that those nice people weren’t that darn nice??

Anonymous wrote:
I see where you are coming from, that is how a nice guy would think of the situation. How long has she been with the jerk?

around 4months..
he treats her so bad.. and yet she just goes back to him..

Like what are some of the bad things he does?

Anonymous wrote:
Like what are some of the bad things he does?

he lies when she wants to meet him.. last time i saw him go for a movie with his friends when he was supposed to go with her instead..
he literally threw a spoon at her when he got mad..
makes her feel so depressed and stressed out..

but he likes her…
weird huh?

but i guess girls like it sometimes.. the dominant type..
so girls want to be independent.. but want a guy who is stronger and takes control of their lives??

sorry if im losing my mind..
can’t understand the girl..

slow learner lol

ty vm for all your help :)

Yes and in the end if the girl stays for to long they become dependent on the mean guy. I know I went through this. They disguise it well at first by doing all the things that are known to be sweet, but are honestly just an ego stroke for themselves. I have been seperated from my ex for 2 years and still can’t feel like an independent woman. If you really care about her, try to learn as much as you can about his behavior and explain what he is doing in a way she can connect with it or will understand. It’s hard teach people that don’t want to hear what you have to say. Do you know if she respects you? How old is she?

Im with ya on that to guys can sometimes be nice to you
and then when you go out with them, well that is just a different story
isnt it

I’m considered a “nice guy,” and there’s an old saying which follows that.

…Angel… wrote:
Im with ya on that to guys can sometimes be nice to you
and then when you go out with them, well that is just a different story
isnt it

No girl named “Angel” I ever met was ever the such to me. . .

Anonymous wrote:

andthisisme wrote:
i mean, im a girl and i like nice guys.
the thing about it is..nice guys make really good friends. and sometimes i feel like because theyre so nice i cant really be myself around them..i dont know. sometimes its because theyre too innocent. but i definitly think that although the confident ones get all of the one night hookups, i usually like relationships with the nice guys.

be honest please..
do you sometimes wish that those nice people weren’t that darn nice??

yea i guess. i mean i think you should be nice when she needs you but don’t overdo it. try to balance your niceness and relaxed coolness.
my friend that i like right now is realy really nice, but suuperr cool at the same time. i think thats the est way to do it.
personally i would never date a guy like the one you’re describing this girl dating. when a girl dates a guy like that usually theyre pretty weak and they think that guy is strong so they rely on him. but not all girls are like this.

Angel is just a nickname that my friends call me