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I know its supposed to be part of my job as a paramedic, but more and more often images pop into my head of people I’ve tried to help.

Specifically Images of the ones I couldn’t. My heart breaks a little more each call. Being a woman in my field I have to present myself as tougher than the guys to keep them from being distrustful of my ability. I’m not going all womens lib, but simply acknowledging a fact. I sadly judge other women the same. But when I come home, or close my eyes I cant push it away anymore. I’ve been doing this job for years just fine, and one day, they all just started bobbing to the surface. I feel guilty and helpless. I’m also angry at myself for being such a… well a wuss to be frank. Today my mind keeps creeping back to this one girl all I can see is her eyes.. Little blue eyes. she was five and had been raped by someone that was supposed to be safe, someone that was supposed to love her and help her…. when did the world become such a bad place… she didn’t cry she just looked blank. I cant fix that, there isn’t a band-aid or a drug or a word to fix that. And I cant stop myself from crying just thinking about her. I’m screwed up and all I did was care for her. that poor girl. I now understand what the lifers were talking about when I first started. They told me if I wasn’t careful that I would get “burnt out”… Was this what they ment?

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Keckers offline Verified User (7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (19 minutes after post)

Post a This isn’t burning out, miss.
You’re experiencing empathy and compassion..and yeah most humans are pretty prone to that.
If you block out these feelings you’d become nothing but a druid doing what you’re suppose to do and in doing so you’d be completely disregarding the main reason which drove you be a paramedic which I assume is to help others.
Compassion isn’t a bad thing and don’t assume you’re the only one who ends up caring.
But in the end you’re going to deal with these things constant and you’r going to have to learn how to get over them.
This girl doesn’t need to be pitied through her life for her ordeal.
She’s going to need some support and guidance and some way to forget because the truth is that that’s the default way people deal with things.

I’m sorry I’m no psychologist, heck I’m not even of age yet but I do know one thing.
You shouldn’t keep these feelings to yourself and think actually having makes you a wuss or anything like that.

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CharylCamida offline Verified User (3 weeks, 1 day) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (48 minutes after post)

I don’t mean to doubt any choices you’ve made about your career, but have you ever thought that maybe this just isn’t the right career for you? I’ve always wanted to become a counsellor in school because I felt like I really wanted to help my friends who are in distress and in need of someone to talk to. However, when I actually started researching that field did I realized that a big part of the job is to …..be able to leave it in the workplace and not let it trouble your personal life. The job of a paramedic is mainly about helping people in emergencies and those who have been through awful situations that are we don’t see in everyday life. So if this part of the career package is really causing you a lot of distress, maybe you should think of a way to maybe transfer to another department or do something new with your career.
sincerely, Charyl

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