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My friend just got dumped.

I feel bad for him but that isn’t what really bothers me. I told him exactly when he was going to start dating her (when she was going to finally say yes). And when I talked to him two weeks ago, I was listening to him when it hit me that she was going to break up with him. I saw it coming and I know that I can’t or couldn’t do anything about it. No one wants to hear bad news. I’m perceptive at times and my friends trust me. They listen to me when I say something will happen. And even if they don’t, and it happens anyway, they come back to me and tell me. I guess my main problem is that I don’t know how to deliver the bad news. I’ve learned from experience that if you try to tell someone that “this” is going to happen, and they don’t like it, they get mad. Even if they don’t get mad, they come back and say things like “You made this happen,” or “You saw this and you didn’t do anything.” (But I know there isn’t anything I can do. I have tried that before too. It ends bad) And I wonder if it makes me a bad friend? And does any one have any advice for me?

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MyNameIS_CharloTTe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Well people just feel like they are so sad or mad that your the closest thing to blame. It’s better than blaming it on themselves huh? Well people like to point fingers so it doesn’t seem like their fault, its some thing that most people do.

oh and you should be open to your friends. If they are really your friends they would understand and accept, even though they seem mad at first. Also they are your friends… you can tell them anything

~CharloTTe

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sahaven offline Verified User (3 weeks, 6 days) Shouts: 97 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

i think you made a good decision by not telling your friend that his girlfriend is gonna break up with him.
you feel that it was your duty as a friend to tell him, but by not telling him you might have saved him alot more emotional distress.. who knows.. things could have been worse then..
you were caring and acting like a true friend when you decided not to tell him.

i guess i should quote from spiderman
“with great power comes great responsibility” :P

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My friend just got dumped.

I feel bad for him but that isn’t what really bothers me. I told him exactly when he was going to start dating her (when she was going to finally say yes). And when I talked to him two weeks ago, I was listening to him when it hit me that she was going to break up with him. I saw it coming and I know that I can’t or couldn’t do anything about it. No one wants to hear bad news. I’m perceptive at times and my friends trust me. They listen to me when I say something will happen. And even if they don’t, and it happens anyway, they come back to me and tell me. I guess my main problem is that I don’t know how to deliver the bad news. I’ve learned from experience that if you try to tell someone that “this” is going to happen, and they don’t like it, they get mad. Even if they don’t get mad, they come back and say things like “You made this happen,” or “You saw this and you didn’t do anything.” (But I know there isn’t anything I can do. I have tried that before too. It ends bad) And I wonder if it makes me a bad friend? And does any one have any advice for me?

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "friendship, Cognitive, perceptiveness" 3 weeks ago.

Bunny slippers offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 10 minutes after post)

I will try to keep these things in mind. Thanks :)

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