He bloves you but not like a girlfreind. He is your friend. THAT’S ALL. You need to find what makes you happy and he isn’t it. You’re hurting a lot and you have to get away because the more you hurt from him the more it ruins your friendship. Give yourself some time away from him to be happy without him and if the two of you were such good freinds then you can carry on with that after.
Wow. I understand how you feel.
We weren’t friends before we dated last year..
We became friends though
And I know giving it space would be better but I leave for Varsity in a year and a half.. He doesn’t. I can’t risk never seeing him again.
He recently promised to never leave me, that he’ll always be there for me.. How can I just *leave* him? Especially while he’s going through hard times.
I’m not sure on what to do.
Bunny slippers wrote:
Wow. I understand how you feel.
Thanks, I guess?
i know how you feel, im going through something like that too.
i know thats no help but your not alone.
ATearFromHeaven wrote:
i know how you feel, im going through something like that too.
i know thats no help but your not alone.
Thanks..
I don’t really need to get over him.. I can’t. I’ve tried so I guess I will when I go away to varsity? It’s all very confusing.
He says he *loves* me. That’s probably why I get so hung up. Nobody really ever used that word to me before.
Even if you run away to where ever, and you let time pass without talking, you still won’t really “get over” him. 500 miles and 20 months later….
I know… (Bunny slippers) But it’s worth a shot?
I don’t want to feel this way forever.. I mean, I like it when we’re all sweet with each other, but when we’re fighting? Hurts more than it should.
My friend thinks I love him, in the IN love kind of way… But lets not get a head of ourselves now…
maybe if you leave then he will wake up and realize that you are what he wants and will come looking for you. but it’s hurting you to stay and listen to him talk about other girls, I think you might feel for him a little more than just friend love. i’m just sayin
I kno I love him… In a way. But I don’t kno how far that goes.
I doubt he’ll suddenly ‘wake up and realise I’m th one he wants’… It probably won’t work like that - not being cynical but it’s just… How it seems.
i think i have a simple answer for you
anything that will halt your growth as a person and put you down and get you sad, throw it away and get away from it :)…
the possibilities are endless it’s sad how we choose one possiblity and keep attached to it, even tho it is killing us…
good luck with everything :)
Thanks Tricky… It’s hard.. But I can’t leave him.
He’s going through really hard times..
i think i got a simple answer
you should take away and stay away from everything that will halt ur progression of growth of urself and everything that will get you down and stuff…
the possiblities are endless it’s sad how we choose one possiblity and stay with it, and yet it brings us all kind of sadness…
sorry for my double post ^_^
Saffle wrote:
Thanks Tricky… It’s hard.. But I can’t leave him.
He’s going through really hard times..
since life is like a wheel sometimes it’s really sh!t and sometimes it get easier, so stay with him till it get’s a little easier for him, i know it is killing you from the inside and stuff but courage, strengh :)… soon it will be all over and all this will be behind and then you will start a new chapter of ur story :)
Hha, it’s okay.. I didn’t really notice. (:
tricky wrote:
since life is like a wheel sometimes it’s really sh!t and sometimes it get easier, so stay with him till it get’s a little easier for him, i know it is killing you from the inside and stuff but courage, strengh :)… soon it will be all over and all this will be behind and then you will start a new chapter of ur story :)
I don’t know if I’ll be able to handle it without him though. He’s my closest guy friend, one of the only guys I let hug me. It’s just… I will stay until he is okay.. But he told me that if I left, he would cry. This is coming from somebody who hates admitting weakness’s. So I know he means it. I know he means all the “I love you’s”… And I knew I would have to watch him fall for someone else.. But I thought… If I stayed, maybe he’d fall for me again?
Yeah, it’s stupid but hey.
Saffle wrote:
tricky wrote:
since life is like a wheel sometimes it’s really sh!t and sometimes it get easier, so stay with him till it get’s a little easier for him, i know it is killing you from the inside and stuff but courage, strengh :)… soon it will be all over and all this will be behind and then you will start a new chapter of ur story :)
I don’t know if I’ll be able to handle it without him though. He’s my closest guy friend, one of the only guys I let hug me. It’s just… I will stay until he is okay.. But he told me that if I left, he would cry. This is coming from somebody who hates admitting weakness’s. So I know he means it. I know he means all the “I love you’s”… And I knew I would have to watch him fall for someone else.. But I thought… If I stayed, maybe he’d fall for me again?
Yeah, it’s stupid but hey.
a little question, if he really loves you, why doesnt he want to be with you ?
He says he loves me, more than he’s ever loved someone… Just not like that way. Love, very platonic.. But very strong.. I don’t know. If I try talk about it, he’ll only go so far before freaking out and closing up. It’s quite annoying.
Saffle wrote:
He says he loves me, more than he’s ever loved someone… Just not like that way. Love, very platonic.. But very strong.. I don’t know. If I try talk about it, he’ll only go so far before freaking out and closing up. It’s quite annoying.
oh kk
maybe you should try to force him to get more info out of him , even if he doesnt like that, cause you need clear answers to know what to do and stuff, i think
If I push him, he gets mad.
I’ve seen it before.
He gets really mad at me, for not just accepting how things are.
Maybe you could find some more healthy platonic male friendships? I know it’s harder than it sounds, but it would allow you to redistribute your affections and desires. Perhaps with more good male friends you might be able take some of your emotional focus off of him.
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I don’t trust guys though..
First guy I’ve really ever trusted.
I’m sorry. That was about the extent of my wisdom but I sincerely wish I could help. There are good guys out there, though I too have difficulty finding them.
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Yeah, they’re hiding.
He’s a good guy.
He cares about me.. I just like him too much and it hurts.
Seems like they do a good job of hurting people on accident. Last good guy I knew was my best friend until I realized that he was addicted to kissing, and had made out with several girls randomly that he doesn’t like at all. It hurt, but he was still probably the kindest and closest friend I have ever had. He lives on the other side of the state now, so, anyways, guess I kinda feel your pain, love. Not that that helps you much.
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He’s really sweet.. If he finds out he’s hurt me, he says sorry and tries to make up for it.. Which makes me like him more.
It’s okay.. I guess nobody but me and him really know the full story so can’t really.. Judge or help too much. Thanks though.
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